to think DP's comments are weird?

[MummikinsOopNorth]

I have recently started meeting up with an ex who I have not seen for about 9 years. We have not got back together as a couple yet, but I feel that it is going that way, but this is holding me back from wanting to go further with him.

Back then he made similar comments, but they just washed over me, but he is still making them 9 years later and I think it's a bit creepy and inappropriate really.

The thing is, that when we are watching tv, he will say that a girl is pretty or sexy, and the reoccurence is that they are all young (like young teenagers really).

A few recent examples are Victoria off Emmerdale, Sian from Coronation Street (yes we watch all the soaps!!!) and another was some young girl in Waterloo Road in school uniform. He never does it regarding girls we see in public, just ones on the telly and it just feels wrong but I don't want to sound like a old hag already when we've only just started to rekindle things. He's 39.

[madonnawhore]

Yeah it would be rude and a bit disrespectful to you for him to do that regardless of what age the girls on TV were, but the fact that they're all quite young just adds an added creepiness factor to it all.

I think you'd be silly to ignore these doubts so early on.

[blackwell]

I think it is a bit unfair. It's fine to have a faithful TV crush (I know I have several one) and I might make a joke of it with my partner, but I wouldn't keep commenting on randomers, as I would worry about maybe offending him.

[vixen1]

It sounds as though he likes the fantasy of a younger girl but not illegally young. The fact that he's saying it about girls on telly is quite telling to that fact because many of them are playing a younger age than they actually are. (and Sian from Corrie exceptionally attractive but I think she's about 20 IRL)

If it bothers you I guess you need to decide whether there is a seedy intent/undertone. If you knew him quite well before it should help...

[phipps]

You are not coming across as a hag. He does something that doesn't make you feel very happy and it is the same as he did 9 years ago. Start as you mean to go on. If it bugs you, tell him. If he won't stop, make a decision whether it is a deal breaker or not. Think about why you split up with him last time and why you are considering going back to him.