Warfning giant rant

[rantyranterson]

Sorry in advance. Have namechanged.

To my husband

You are an idiot. You are hateful and hurtful. If you turn one more disagreement into how much of bitch i am i will scream.

Sometimes i wish you would piss off and leave me for another woman.

There you go, some of the things i can't say to you, when you ask me for the hundredth time what's wrong. Even though you know.

Sorry ladies really needed that (no-one in rl to tell)

As you were.......

Sorry for the crazy grammar.

And extra f.

hey rantyranterson, sorry you're having a bad time of it at the moment :(

y'know tho... he doesn't have to be the one who pisses off? if things are really bad have you considered leaving him?

sorry, i know you might just want a big rant and not a solution.

Thanks for replying thisis

The problem is that it isn't 'bad enough' to leave if that makes sense. He is very passive aggressive though and sometimes it get too much and i feel like i'm going to explode, hence ranty post.

He will now ring me 20 times to ask what's wrong and when i crack and tell him he will tell me that i'm wrong.

And so the cycle repeats.

[growly emoticon]

Sorry to hear it ranty.I know that 'things bottled up' feeling and it does one no good at all.

So, maybe tell him straight the first time he rings you. That'll surprise him. There may be a pattern of him wearing you down knowing you want to avoid talking, so why not shake things up a bit? If every time he asks you he gets a very straight answer, he may not be so keen to ask you.

yes, sadly i know exactly what you mean! i've said before that i wish dp would have an affair, or end it himself.
actually we're doing ok right now though after some long talks

do you think he'd be up for some kind of relationship counselling?
it can't go on can it? if it/s making you unhappy?

and agree with EC. if he rings then tell him exactly what is bothering you
if he tries to make out you are wrong then just say to him "dh, this is how i FEEL- you cannot tell me how i feel is "wrong"."

I used to do that! I know it sounds like i'm being really negative it's just he's like a dog with a bone, so if i tell him he then explains how i am wrong and am in fact being a witch.

Whereas if he just leaves me alone it gives me a chance to get over it (i have told him this repeatedly)

I feel worn down.

Must admit it is nice to be able to rant consequence free!

I think counselling would be great but dh won't entertain it. Maybe i should get some just for myself.