Internet dating - is it too easy?

[RitaLynn]

This is a pretty trivial question and one that may jar with some other people's experiences.

I've been internet dating, and met one guy, we got on well, had a fling, but had quite a nomadic existence, so it ended, but with no hurt on either side.

I've just met someone, and he's great. He's funny, smart, we laugh a lot together, he's a doctor, so financially secure, I don't think there's a wife hanging around, etc. We share loads of interests, but here's my problem...

... it almost seems too easy. Rather than the traditional way of stalking them in an office, or failing to speak to them at the bus-stop, etc, etc, we just met, went on some dates and we like each other. There was no chasing. It's too early to tell whether it's some grand amour, but how easy it was has me worried.

Has anyone else experienced with internet dating? The lack of the chase makes it seem just too easy and therefore not as "valid"

I tried Match - even paid to join and was very disappointed.

I had quite a few contacts and dates from both www.freedating.co.uk and www.plentyoffish.com, but I met my dh on plentyoffish. I saw him on the "new members" page and almost didn't contact him thought he was way out of my league. Luckily I decided "What the heck - he can only say no!" and he said yes! Exchanged a few emails on the site, progressed to MSN which he downloaded especially so he could talk to me, arranged our first date and the rest is history. We really did click straightaway.

I was also on a site called girlsdateforfree, but I didn't have any dates off that. But it might be worth looking at.

Met my husband on Guardian Soulmates but he was also on MSF. I'd been there a day, and he was the first one I'd spotted. He'd been there two years (also dating not online!). Which is ridiculous as he was extraordinarily eligible....So it's worth just keeping a profile out there, incase Mr Right is just being slow....if the current crop is dross, someone good might turn up any day. Think of it as sending a clone of yourself to a random party. You can still get on with meeting people in real life, but your clone can hang out in the room, just in case someone perfect turns up. You're losing nothing, but it's worth just checking in everyday.

I met DH on one of the big sites. I would recommend it - yes its easy to meet people but what happens next is exactly the same as in any new relationship. I don't feel like my marriage is less valid because we met online.

Big advantanges are;

• Everyone there is up for dating
• On many of the sites, things like whether people want children or not/have children already/religion/can't stand smokers etc can be out in the open from the start

Diadvantages are;

• Because its so easy to meet new people, you can end up not taking the time to get to know people properly - you just move onto the next date

Just been talking to my brother whose been internet dating for a year, he met someone he really liked recently and then got really messed about..seems she continued to answer emails etc,to play the field, while he stopped just out of respect really.

The whole thing does make total sense, logically, but from what i gathered they rushed in, a few emails, a few texts,a date, supper at hers,bed, all in a space of 2 weeks...of course that happens in 'normal' situations too, but is that what Ritalynn means by 'too easy'?
Where was the spotting someone, eye contact, smiling next time you bump into each other, build up.. wheres' the body language or time investment, when you're working someone out?If it's via emails,..(mind you, i'm a one finger typer,so emails do take me a long time!)

But at the same time,a friend met her DH on the internet, as have many of you- it can work! Oh it's a tricky one eh?Maybe today while in an analytical mood, i shall believe the guff about'if its meant to happen it will'.. probably be on every online list by next week, eh?

Ah, the old, "when to delete your profile" question.

My dh and I had our first date mid November. We both deleted our profiles a few days into December, so just over a couple of weeks. I didn't respond to any emails afer I had met him though - it was really just in case things were not as hunky dory as they initially seemed, I wanted to keep the profile active.

But once we knew we were happy with each other, the profiles were history.