dating question - first phone call help

[littlenervous]

This is a very silly thing to be worrying about i know. But i just need some advice on how to play it.

Have been emailing this guy from a dating site. He seems quite nice, not like the usual muppet that is on there.

We have been texting for about a week now and hes tried to phone me a few times.

First time i rejected the call and said i was out and couldnt talk.

Second time i cancelled the call and said i was in the supermarket.

Last night he text and said did i fancy a chat, and i said i had a friend round.

I do actually want to speak to him and i find it really flattering that he wants to talk to me. But im nervous as anything and i have no idea what to say.

Does anyone have any tips, or pointers... or can give me slap round the face to tell me to get a grip.

OK, he has called you three times now and you have blown him off. If I were him I would be seriously wondering if you liked me at all.

Call him.

Oh, and slap :)

I know. its awful isnt it. 3 times in a week as well.

I feel really bad.

But ive never met him, what on earth do i say to him?

Ok, ill text him this afternoon and say that i am free and at home and able to chat if he wants to.
Hows that?

I know exactly how you feel! I have always felt that talking to someone you've never met on the phone is almost pointless! I always get nervous too. But, the calls are always fine and you do have stuff in common, the dating site!

The call doesn't have to be long, just 5-10 minutes. It's not that bad to have been busy 3 times, you have a busy life. (I know you haen't been that busy in reality, but don't start feeling awful!)

well actually the first time i did miss the call, the second time i was actually out ( though was with my mum) and last night i was watching xfactor and it was gone 9 and i really couldnt be bothered to talk to anyone.

Well, we met IRL before our first phone call - but I am nervous speaking to strangers on the phone.

Once we had met, we talked for hours on the phone on the days we couldn't see each other. Then we progressed to video MSNing, which is much better.

I struggled with this alot when I got experimented with internet dating (it does not help that I am chronically shy).

I found it helpful to look at his interests and read up on them and when he rings, find a way to work in an interesting tidbit about something he is interested in.

For example, this one guy loved anything to do with wildlife; now I already knew that other than human beings, only two other mammals engaged in sex for pleasure (Bonobo monkeys and Dolphins). However, scientists had just discovered that fruit bats engage in oral sex for pleasure. He found that really amusing and it was the perfect icebreaker. It seems like a lot of effort but he was lovely, rich and very well endowed..:-)

Hope that helps..

Answer the phone and see how the conversation goes, if it is broken and difficult to get a conversation going, imagine how your first date would go! If a conversation is easy and the chat flows then that is a great thing and you are well on the way.

SurreyAmazon, I dont wish to know about the length of your conquests appendages thank you very much, please keep that sort of information to yourself.

You seem to have taken quite a shine to me Bucketcrutch; I sure do hope our first phone call isn't broken and difficult. We could always stick a porn on, fast forward to a random scene and speak out the dialogue.

Lets not hijack someone elses thread. Just ignore me and I will ignore you.

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