Meh. I want an exchange.

[CapriceNelson]

I keep on reading about husbands who can't keep their hands off during pregnancy and after. I understand where you are coming from.

But.. I have the opposite problem. My baby is now 2 years, 3 months and my partner hasn't wanted sex with me since the conception.

Yes. He is dismissive. There is far more to this though. I'm tired and need to get out of an impossible situation.

No sex in over two years! What's the point in being married?

What else is going on?

We aren't married. I am 42 with a failed marriage and four children. I didn't plan the fourth.. he came along despite the pill. My first three children are the products of a failed marriage. I have a fantastic relationship with their dad.

However.. This man and I had a casual relationship. Weekend walks etc. I became pregnant. I worked at the time, I took maternity leave, this man rented out his house and moved in against my wishes. This was the first of our rows.

I lost my job due to anxiety and other child related problems.

My 'partner' pays the bills but I have access to no money other than the small maintenance payments from ex husband and child benefit. I will not ask for money. WWYD? I really need advice.

I need to move out but there is no way I can.

He moved into your house without you asking? Tell him to leave. I take it he still has his house rented out? Then he will have money to rent somewhere. And he has to maintain his child.

Are you getting any help for your anxiety? I suffered that for a year, it was the worst year of my life. Please ask for help with that.

Why you you think you should move out?

Sorry, meant why do you think you should move out.

He won't leave. He says if I leave he'll take my son. I'm taking beta blockers for the anxiety, they do help.. but I still want to kill my partner..

I want to move out because.. 'sigh'.. so many reasons. He changed towards me the minute he learnt of my pregnancy. I became his mum overnight. I dunno.. I'm so confused with this.

I want my life back and this dead fish dumped.. but he'll take my baby.

Thankyou for your responses perfumedlife and needafootmassage. It's a mess.

He can't take your baby.

Phone Citizens Advice to get advice on your legal position, rights and benefits.

Thankyou. I will go to the CAB. I feel so worn down with this I feel I need validation. I feel as though I'm going mad. But it's not me. He told me a couple of weeks ago that all his mates partners are earing more than them and he wants me to work so he can stay at home.

I used to be so strong. I'm so angry with myself. Why do I feel so weak against this fecker?

If he isn't named on your mortgage deeds or tenancy agreement you can chuck him out and change the locks without a second thought. Please get some proper advice as it sounds like he is really taking the piss. And no, he can't just take your baby. Speak to CAB first thing Monday!

Thankyou FeedMe. We are both named on the deeds and mortgage. I will go to CAB. It's so easy to start believing them isn't it? I used to think he cared? No I didn't.

Why is he named on teh deeds if its your house and he moved in against your wished?

This is not a sex issue

It is a domestic abuse issue

Please tell everything to your GP and ring Women's Aid.

Definitely get professional advice. Getting him to go can be done, you just need to go about it the right way if he's on the mortgage.

He sounds like a knobber and you'll be much better off without him. Best of luck - not that you need it!

He moved in with me when I rented. We (he) bought a house.. I didn'nt want it. I had a house rental ready to move into.

Thing is.. I was aware I was suffering PND as I always do and put this blip down as me over reacting because of it. And moved in..

I now know the PND is prolongued because of this situaion. I actually don't feel as though I have it anymore, I'm just stuck with this.

Out of interest.. why do I need to tell GP? Of course I'll tell anyone who will listen. The conversation with my my mum (who lives abroad) went thus..

Mum.. 'I don't know how you cope'

Me.. 'I'm not coping Mum'

Mum, 'That's nice dear'

:)

Ack. I'm making light of it. I always do. Please help.. advise.. hold my hand.

Is it domestic abuse? How so?

I second ringing Women's Aid, they can give you practical advice. Do you have any RL friends you can talk it over with?

I'm sorry you're going through this, what a shitty situation.

Are your other children all still school age / at home? Would moving out (with the kids obviously) be feasible in any way?

Er, he moved in against your will, and you are suffering from anxiety as a result, and he is threatening to take your baby. Just for starters.

That is emotional abuse at least.