Kissing..........

[adeladeazu]

Sorry name changed for this, I just wonder if anyone else feels the same way as me about kissing their DP/DH or anyone else for that matter

I really don't like kissing with tongues/open mouths for any length of time. I have always felt like this and have never enjoyed it. Whenever I do try with my DH it feels awkward and uncomfortable. This would be fine but he really likes it when we do kiss like that and actually says I am a good kisser but I think I am terrible and I just don't like it.

The thing is he recently told me it makes him sad that he can't just kiss me like that spontaneously and like we are really missing out on something together

I really have tried to enjoy kissing him like that but I just can't. I don't know what to do I don't know why I have this problem with intimacy I enjoy every thing else

When I think about how I would feel if I was the one who wanted to kiss him and he never wanted to I do think I would feel hurt but what can I do? How can I make him feel better about this? Or better still how can make myself enjoy kissing him?

TIA

bumping for you I am the same I don't know why sorry not much help... watching with interest.

A bit off subject, but there is a hoary(excuse the pun!) old piece of male urban mythology, relating to the (supposed) fact that the one thing which prostitutes will not do is kiss their 'punter' in a girlfriend type manner. This is (again, supposedly) the one piece of intimacy which is reserved solely for their boyfriends/partners.
Ergo, some men now seem to judge any reticence re snogging to be a significant withdrawal of intimacy, which may indicate that their partner is eye-ing the exit door.
Conclusion? Men will believe any old bollocks which their mates tell them in the pub!

Well that doesn't make me feel much better. But he must know I'm not actively with drawing from him as I have always been like this. I do kiss him on the lips affectionately just not with my mouth open.

Is it to do with the way he kisses? Too sloppy for example or too much tongue..

I personally really enjoy it but don't get to do too much as it turns DP on so much that its always foreplay! I've had some really bad kissers before though and dreaded doing it.

How aboout if you kissed with mouth open but you set the rythym, amount of tongue etc?