Some advice please

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Ive been trying to post this for over a week and backing out. I'm scared of someone in RL recognising me.

I have been with my DP a year, he is controlling, possesive etc and I had made the decision after starting a thread on here to leave him.

But I found out last week I am pregnant. We have been very careful, i've never missed a pill. I have no explanation for it. He is dead against having children. I already have DC. He has always said that he would make me terminate if we ever had an accident.

And I believe he would force me to have an abortion. He is abusive.

Even with all the reasons to have an abortion my heart wont let me. So I haven't told him, I plan to hide it for 14 weeks if possible and then tell him its to late for a termination. He will leave me, but thats ok, good infact. If I tell him not he will make my life hell and I will cave with the pressure.

If I disappear its because he has come home.

Congratulations on your preganancy.

If he is abusive, and you have made the decision to leave - then why can't you do it now ?

Why do you have to wait 14 weeks, for him to leave you ? Ring women's aid for RL support.

I am sure there will be more with more comprehensive advice for you, from others far wiser than me.

I don't think going ahead with the pregnancy would be a good thing, for many, many reasons. If you're only a week late, would a termination be difficult?

Why don't you just leave now and never have anything to do with him ever again?

Then he won't know about the baby and the baby will never have to have anything to do with its abusive father.

The only thing I would ask you to consider is the fact that in physically abusive relationships, the abuse often gets worse when the woman is pregnant. How safe do you think you, your children and your feotus would be around him?

Have you thought about leaving him now?

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I agree that you should not change your plans to leave because you are pregnant. If anything it is more urgent that you leave now, as 2cats says, it may get worse if he finds out you are pregnant.

You sound afraid of your DP, do you have somewhere safe to go?

What a tough situation, please come back on when you can, take all the support you can from wherever you can.