Holidaying alone when kids with ex. Ideas?

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At New Year kids will be abroad on holiday with ex h, and I will be home alone for a week.

He moved out about 2 months ago, so it's all pretty raw still, this will be my first major time away from children, and on my own.

This holiday was booked long before I found out about his affairs, and needs to be used. I let him have it because I plan to take them away for a week myself in Feb.

Dreading it, don't want to sit in empty house moping. Am looking for inspiration. Things to do, places to go where I won't be the only sado on my own, and can keep busy-ish. Not interested in sitting on a sun lounger alone with my thoughts. Not interested in singles holidays to meet a man. Any ideas?

Go and stay with some friends you haven't seen for a while so you're not on your own?

Go on a volunteering type holiday where there will be other people single or otherwise and there will be stuff to keep you busy?

Hi helicopter hope you're ok? That is a big deal, I can imagine it being really hard to be without your kids.

Do your kids go to your ex-H at weekends and if so have you found anything that you enjoy doing at those times that you could extend to a week?

Agree about looking up friends but maybe try and get back in touch with a friend who doesn't have kids or who is in a similar situation- being with someone elses kids might be very sad for you. I sometimes stay with a friend when I'm away from home with work and although I love her kids, their presence makes me miss mine so much.

Do you like hiking? Maybe look into a hiking type activity holiday if you do or something active?

What about a yoga holiday? Seem to be quite a few available if you google it. For example

Thanks everyone.

Hello loves2walk, hope you're doing OK. It is a big deal, but am also trying hard to see it as a chance to do something I'd never been able to do with the kids iyswim. If I was married and my h said take a week off you deserve it (not that that would ever happened in a million years!) my mindset would be completely different and I'd be looking forward to it. Its the fact that I'm forced into it.

Had a look at the yoga site maliciousinkey. Never done yoga before, but looks a really good site. Time honoured type of holiday to take after a separation, isn't it?!

Going to meet another single mum tomorrow, will do more research with her too.

I'd go for the city break. My personal choice would be Manhattan although it will be very very cold there in Jan. I'd still go though. Anything goes in New York and nobody will notice that you are on your own. Table for one, theatre ticket for one - no problem.

Have you thought about New Year's Eve though? Will you mind being on your own when the clock strikes 12. It wouldn't bother me but you might want to plan something for that. Perhaps a couple of drinks, bed and fast asleep before waking up to a brand new year.

You were awake early helicopter - are you sleeping alright? I can understand how difficult this is given that the change was forced on you, rather than you deciding to take this route. And it sounds like this 'route' would have been the last thing you wanted. It's good that you're thinking of New Year now so you've got lots of time to plan something. Even if you decide to stay at home, you've got loads of time to invite old friends over or such like.

I woke up this morning and remembered a really good friend of mine used to go on these holidays, hopefully linked below - he took several of them and studied different topics each time:-

www.skyros.com/svc_atsitsa_life_coach.htm

he used to say that most people went alone and were very friendly but it wasn't a singles type holiday place - I don't think he hooked up with anyone in all the years I knew of him going on these holidays. But they sounded unthreatening for single people, just full of interesting people.

I fantasise about going here:

www.breathingspacenorfolk.com/index.html

I suggest a trip to Tromso in Norway and stay at the AMI hotel (bed and breakfast) - excellent value for money. Look it up in Trip Advisor. I'm going there soon, initially it was to be on my own, and the AMI was rated good for singles travelling. Flights to Tromso are from Gatwick and reasonable.

I'd go to the Canary Islands for a week and chill out with books and a few glasses of wine.

I used to go abroad every year for a week on my one and it was great. Try and see it as you time and not that it will be a horrid time.

I am 29, how old are you? We could maybe meet up if you live near me.

The canaries will have nice weather but you might feel odd as it is a package holiday place and it will cost. Ive done it before and I found it lonely on an evening when holiday groups were going out drinking and I had no-one to go with!!

I would go the city route or anywhere that will be full of people. Have you got the time to go further afield? If you can deal with the flight India is a great place to be on your own. I found it really safe.

I dont like New Year's eve so it wouldnt bother me if I was on my own or not.