So Sad

[TwinklesMum]

Hi All
I am new to this site and have never posted on a forum before but having read alot of previous posts I know that I will get the support and reassurance I need from here!!

I am married with a three year old and a nine month old. I have just gone back to work after my maternity leave and to be honest I just want to forget about my 10 months leave as it has been so awful.

When our youngest was 3 months old I found a mobile phone with explicit messages that proved my husband had been having an affair. He swore it was purely a sex thing and that we had become more friends than lovers, I was devastated but wanted to work it out and we really tried.

I thought that things were getting better on ALL fronts (IYKWIM) but yesterday (the day before I return to work after 10 months maternity ;eave) something happens that forces him to admit he isn't happy and that he wants to leave.

He is going to stay with a friend until he can find something more permanent.

I am just devastated, I don't know how I am going to get over this.

Sorry for the long post....

Sorry you are having a crap time, don't have any advice but lot's of people on here are fantastic.

you will get a much better response on the relationships section.
sorry for all the smilies

sorry, that looks so flippant, just meant to be uplifting.x

I'm so sorry you are going through this - but you are really really better off out. "purely a sex thing" ?? How is that reassuring? And "friends" don't treat other friends that way.

Sorry - I'm sure that didn't help, but I am sorry that you are going through this - take care of yourself

Sorry you are going through this. You will be in shock for quite a while yet. What you need now is practical help to get through the next few days. Do you have someone in rl to support you?

Highly likely that there is an ow waiting in the wings. The story will eventually unravel. He is a prize prick and you deserve better.

Just wanted to say how sorry I am for you and to let you know, you will get through this. Also to let you know, you are not alone as I am in similar situation with a 3.5yr old & almost 2 year old.

Wishing some sleep for you tonight.

I hope you're ok, stupid thing to say I know. My fiancée left me for another woman when I was pregnant with his third. My whole life has been turned upside down but I'm getting through it with the help and support of amazing family and friends. My children are 3.5, 2.5 and 14 weeks- it's tough but they have to be your focus, they will get you through it.

Hi Twinkles Mum,

I just want to say he will realise one day what he had with you. I am thinking just carry on. It comes at an awful time when you are about to go back to work. It will be difficult to muster up the strengh to go but try and go even if you feel numb because this will give you a purpose and take your mind off what is going on. Theres nothing worse than sitting at home because it makes it worse. Obviously there is times when you will want to be alone and sit and cry etc but keep going with your life. Dont let him destroy you and your family. Stay strong, keep independent.

Time is a healer it wont feel like this now, but in the long run you will find a man who deserves you. Just keep remebering he doesnt deserve you, you are far better than him.

Let me know how your first day at work went

Take care

Rx