Just want to have a sounding on this..
an ex ( we were engaged a long time back) has recently split from his 2nd wife- she dumped him after a short marriage .
he lives miles away but we have always kept in touch.
I have been offering him support by email since she left and he has made very caring comments about what he feels for me etc etc. and suggested we might met up sometime as friends ( we have done this before.) But I wasn't coming on strong as I felt it was too soon.
I felt something was up as his emails have been less full of angst and he now tells me he has met someone- it's only 8 weeks since he moved out of the house he had with his wife. he isn't sure about it and in fact he feels quite detached from her, even though on paper she ticks boxes.
I sent him a very short email saying I wasn't going to say anything..though of course he knows what I think. He has a history of getting involved too soon then breaking things off, and his email about it all simply reinforced all of that- he is not comfortable with it, but doesn't seem to be able to help himself. I said he hadn't wasted time.
He replied rather curtly this is why he doesn't tell me anything and he already has a mother. ( who happens to have made the same comment(s) as me.)
Would that hurt you?
I feel really hurt. Maybe he meant it as a joke, but he has kept this new woman quiet- he must have started dating 2-3 weeks after he moved into his own place, and during that time I have been asking if he was okay etc etc. and offering support.
I admit my heart is still involved a bit, and I feel a bit jealous. But I also feel a fool- all along he was with someone and I was emailing him as if he was sitting at home crying into his beer.
I have sent a curt reply saying if that's how he feels about me ( ie like another mother, and unable to tell me anything due to me passing comment )- fine.
Am I over reacting? I know I can!