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mugface · 10/09/2005 18:10

I just never want sex with dh. I have been like this for years and it causes big trouble in our relationship.
I really don't know why i don't want it. I have tried to work it out and can't.
Every so often we have a big falling out about it and as he has done today, says he's leaving me.
When it's been a few weeks without any he starts to get really nasty to me. Today he insisted to know why i hadn't done the ironing and then told ds2 that it was because his mum couldn't be bothered, making out like i'm some lazy slob.

He made me feel so shit about goin to my friends last night that i ended up not going and then this morning in bed, i'm still angry and he's putting my hand on his u know what.

He's said he's leaving but if he doesn't i know that he will just try to make a move again in a day or two and i just don't feel like i can reciprocate when he's been being such a pig.

It goes round in circles. Am I with the wrong man? I can't see it ever getting better unless i wake up as a sex maniac one day.

i am so miserable and wish i could even pretend, ave sex and it would be fixed again..for a bit.

OP posts:
HughJarse · 10/09/2005 18:17

Do you love him?

ponygirl · 10/09/2005 18:34

Tbh it sounds as though you have more fundamental problems in your relationship than the regularity or not of sex. If my dh spoke to me like that, under any circumstances, I wouldn't want to have sex with him either. And to your children...?

What's he like when you have had sex?

stressedmummy · 10/09/2005 18:50

I am in a similar situation to you ATM, in that my H is often being quite horrible & controlling, which doesn't exactually make me want to have sex with him.
I can honestly say, it has been over 2 months since we last did & that time was only because I had too much to drink.
When they are being ar*e holes, the last thing you feel like doing is being intimate with them & why should you?!
Have you spoken to him about the way he has been treating you lately?

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