Isi it just my DP who does stupid things all the time?

[Mobly]

Like, for example, today, I heard a clatter in the room my DC's were playing in. I popped my head round the door to find them playing with a pile of hacksaw blades and other dangerous, sharp, tools. These were the tools I had specifically asked DP to put in the shed yesterday. He complained a bit about having to go to the shed (you would think I live in acres of land and the shed is a good trek away, but alas I live in a terrace) but never mentioned the fact that he had instead, hidden them in reach of the DCs. DCs are 2.5yrs and 11mths. Luckily, no-one was hurt.

I text him pointing out what he had done and saying I was really annoyed. He called very apologetic but ata the end of the day things like this happen all the time. I am always picking up money that he leaves lying around. You would think after being a dad for 2.5yrs he would recognise a fucking choking hazard and pick up his dropped coins.

This is just a rant really because it appears there is no solution.

Nope. I'm trying to think of examples of my brother in law but there have been too many to count!

The most recent didn't involve the children or anyone getting hurt, but my sister had been away for the weekend leaving him with the kids and dog, and she is of the opinion that she can't go away without something happening. He left a tin of paint lying around. My sister arrived home to find that her house had been redecorated with blue paw prints :O

He also once bought a bb gun and hid it from his four year old in that really out of the reach place...under the bed.

Ohh my DH does things like this. Drops screwdrivers, bubble gum packs and "doesn't realise". It's MSB again(Male Selective Blindness). It's the same thing when they ask you half a dozen times where the pepper is, and you tell them it's in the cuboard. They can't see it, you look and put your hand straight on it. Mine accuses me of using my force powers to hide it from him.

I would tell him that the next time he leaves something dangerous around and you find it, you'll throw it away. And then do it. Seriously. He'll very soon get the idea.

This can also be extended to stuff which is merely annoying (like dirty socks for example), depending on how much it annoys you. But definitely do it for the dangerous stuff.

Apart from money. Money goes into your nice-things fund and gets saved up for a coffee and a slice of cake. :)

exp used to do this. he would leave his remote control helicopter under our bed and then give me a dirty look when he found ds playing with it!! as if it was my fault?

or go into the roofspace with ds watching him, come back down and leave the ladder there while he played the ps3.

It appears not then! Well at least I'm not alone.

That's a good idea Outrageous, except that we need the tools to finish the skirting board in our kitchen so it wouldn't just affect him if I threw them out.

DS1, aged about 18 months I think, burned his little fingers on a soldering iron. His dad was furious with me for not keeping the child away from it because I "should have known" that it was hot. I didn't even notice it was in the lounge, let alone switched on. But as a caring mother, of course, I should have.

I know perfectly well it's because he felt so bad about causing pain to his precious baby that he had to offload the guilt pronto, but what gave him the right to offload it onto me? I have my own crippling burden of guilt to carry, thank you very much!

It's such a joy not to have to pretend to myself any more that I've forgiven things like this.

Anniegetyourgun, sorry to hear that. :(

I think it's just thoughtlessness on their part isn't it?

Oh it definitely was, yes. Don't worry about the baby, his fingers made a full recovery. This was many years ago.