Has anyone ever cut out a parent? Need some practical advice please...

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...as unfortunately I live about two miles from my father and stepmother which makes it slightly more tricky. We've been trying to move for nearly two years now but DH is really struggling to find another job somewhere else so we're having to face the fact that we may be here for much longer...

I had counselling last year and was advised to take control and just see them when I want to, but it's not that easy when they're on the doorstep, and also I feel a bit guilty about stopping them from seeing my children. (Not that they see them anyway, they haven't spent any time with them this whole year. They've been in teh same room as them for half an hour here and there but not actually had any quality time with them, IYSWIM.)

So obviously I can't just disappear, so do I have to have some sort of formal conversation along the lines of "you do my head in, please don't contact me"?

Has anyone done this? Was there any bad fall out?

Dastardley, how awful.

I've been able to swerve the issue as they've been away for a bit, but coming to truth time now I think.

Well, leaving it isn't working as something always comes up.

My DS was involved in a car accident recently and they got all involved in that by calling DH's parents and then coming round to see us when we got back (and I didn't feel in a state to stop them as they turned up unannounced, I didn't feel right stopping them from seeing DS and I was in shock still anyway from teh accident.)

It's looking like I will have to have some sort of formal conversation. THe more I think about it the more I think my whole life has been lived under total ignorance of the actual truth. They've presented me with one version of events and the more I find out the more I think they have done me a huge disservice by lyign to me for years.