I'm at my wits end.. H and I separated just before the summer holidays, he moved to his mothers and has still got lots of stuff (infact all his things at the house).
It has not been easy, I work full time and have 3 kids too, but I know that my decision to end the marriage is the right one.
The BIG problem I have is that he will not accept that the marriage is over.. he constantly text, calls and emails me, begging to give us another(again) chance.
When he comes to collect the children or drops them off, he waltzes in to the house, makes himself 'at home' and proceeds to follow me around, whispering at me, asking if we can "have a chat", blocking me in rooms and not leaving, declaring undying love, winding me up infront of the children.. it goes on and on.
I can't put on paper the feelings and utter frustration I feel, he's very passive aggressive, will NOT leave me alone and constantly says the same things to me over and over and over again. I have to ask him at least 12-13 times to leave me alone and still he won't. I have had to lock myself in the bathroom, whilst he taps on the door..."can we have a chat"..."I love you so much darling"... etc.. Completely ignoring my distresss and upset.
He constantly asks me if I have met someone else... I haven't and have told him this on many, many occassions.
He has made it quite clear that I am HIS wife and that he will not give up.
I know I cannot stop him from coming into the house..but every single weekend is ruined because he won't listen to me and when I try to talk to him it turns into an argument. I then need to get away from him and spend 10 minutes trying to persuade the kids to come with me... he usaully just smirks at me when they won't.
I just don't know what to do... I find it hard to put down how this makes me feel.. I am exhausted and drained by this.
I have told him that he can't be like this with me and that if he continues I will call the police, he just laughs at this saying "what are they going to do... arrest me for wanting to talk to you...".
I also have 2 abusive and angry teenagers who only ever see daddy being 'nice' to mum and mum getting upset because he won't leave her alone.... I'm the bad one in all of this and are aparently moving in with him when he gets his new flat in 2 weeks time. Again a conversation had with the children independant of me...He works in London, but apparently he has sorted all that out...
In tears as I type... please don't flame me... need good advice and virtual shoulders to cry on please.