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Drinking too much?

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greenbelly · 10/10/2010 11:32

I've known my husband 10 years. In those 10 years I can probably count on two hands the amount of days when he has not had a can of beer. He's not your typical 'get pissed' drinker, he'll have anywhere from 1-6 cans a day, it's usually about 3 when he comes home from work.

In the beginning it was my mother that brought it up about the amount he drinks. I shrugged it off because I thought that the fact that he wasn't drinking to get drunk meant that he didn't have a problem. I think aftercare couple if years I just got used to it. Every now and again I would mention to him that he should try to cut down, he always agreed but never did anything about it. On the weekend he would wait till the earliest possible time to have a can of beer, usually around lunch time, then it would be one after the other till bed time.

This morning, I caught him drinking a beer at 11am!! He was going out to meet a friend, they get together with powerkites. I think he needed a boost of confidence before he went. It makes me so sad that he needs to drink for confidence... I feel guilty that I haven't been able instill confidence in him over the past 10 years.

I don't know what to do...

OP posts:
Jaybird37 · 10/10/2010 14:42

It sounds like a problem to me.

In my view you have drinking problem if it is affecting your health (his certainly will be); your social situation (it is causing you anxiety for a start); your finances (this depends on how much you earn of course); or your work.

Strong markers include ever being caught drink driving.

This is a link to a quiz which shows you whether or not you should be concerned.

alcohol screening

There are 4 initial questions, and a more detailed 20 question list.

I would encourage your husband to look at the quiz and possibly take him down to your GP for a full blood count (to see if his blood cells are enlarged) and liver function tests.

AA remains the most effective way of handling the problem.

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