I know this is wrong so why am I thinking about it...

[loveulotslikejellytots]

Have posted on threads before so some may know me. Bit of brief background for those that don't: DH and I married this year, originally wanted to TTC this year but due to needing to move first, which is now on hold because of DH's job being put on hold, we will have to wait until at least 2011.

DH and I were at home last night. I'm due AF and mentioned about my boobs being sore. He said something about being pregnant (got the implant - not a chance) and a discussion ensued about not being the right time etc. He said no it's not the right time to plan a family, but if it happened he would be over the moon and we would manage.

I was talking to my friend earlier and she said that this was a hint from him to maybe have my implant removed and see what happens... .

I'll talk to DH tonight but I wanted to see what anyone else thinks? I'm mad to be even considering this I know but I would love to start a family now!

Sorry for the spelling mistakes.

Hi,

I think you just need to communicate properly with one another. He is giving mixed signals. Says no not right time then if it happened he would be happy.
I verge more towards the not right time. I dont know when the right time would be but if its money related maybe you should sort that out first so that you are not struggling all the time to bring up your child.

Rachx

I think no matter what stage you are at in life there will always be reasons to put off having children.

For DH and me it wasn't really the right time but we just said "feck it, let's do it anyway" and I am so so delighted to be expecting my first baby in December. Yes the money situation isn't as perfect as it could be but sod it, having children is something I've always wanted to do, we're going to love it no matter what, and everything else will sort itself out.

My parents hadn't two beans when they had me and my sister, but it made absolutely no difference to us. All I kept thinking was "what if one of us dies and we didn't have any kids because of something as unimportant as money" I think if you want it, go for it. You're both trying to be sensible but your true feelings are slipping out - that's why your husband said what he did.

Ok- 2011 is not too far away is it? Talk to him over the weekend, ask him to be honest, even if it isn't what you want to hear. If it means leaving it until this time next year would that be so terrible?
Fwiw,I had my first ds at the wrong time- I was young, living with GPs, had only known his dad for 6 months, just about to do A level exams and working part-time. But we did it! Sometimes life doesn't need to be planned out to the nth degree...