Hi all, this may be quite long, but want to try and get all info in the one post.
One of my best friends has been seeing a girl he met on a dating website, they've been together about a month or so. Both 26. Before they met she told him she was a bit wary of meeting someone, as the last person she met took her on a few dates, slept with her, and then didn't bother with her anymore. She said he just used her for a shag. (Don't know whether this is relevant to the rest of it but thought I'd say just in case.) He reassured her that he was not like this (which he isn't) and they ended up meeting and getting together.
Anyway, tonight he has told me that he's not really sure about her now, he finds some things a bit odd. I asked what it was, and he said sometimes she is fine, chatty, laughing etc, and then is totally uncommunicative. She just ignores him. He said he will speak to her or ask questions, and she does not respond at all. As far as he can tell, nothing changed and she just went quiet. totally unresponsive. Now this strikes me as a bit odd tbh. After the fact she wouldn't say why she started ignoring him, but she blamed it on her period. He says this silence thing has happened three or four times. Now I don't think that many relationships start off this way, at the beginning you want to give a good impression, just seems like if she's being like this so early on, what's she going to be like in a few months?
He also said he is feeling a bit uncomfortable about her hinting on moving in together. Bear in mind they have only been together a very short while, I know some people practically live together from the get go, I've done it too, but it's usually staying over the night, and then the next night, and then the next, but it's not usually hinted at so early on, IYKWIM.
Anyway, he said he was talking to her on msn tonight, said to her that she just needs to tell him if she's on her period or feeling weird or whatever, it's cool, just let him know. Then she said she hates her periods. He said there wasn't that much she could really do about it, she said she could kill herself. He said 'why on earth would you do that?' she said she was worth nothing.
Now, I think he needs to get out of this relationship. He thinks so too. But I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, on and off for two years. I don't know if my judgement is clouded, but to me it seems that this is sinister. Completely blanking him when he's speaking to her, as far as he's aware nothing was done or said to have brought that on. Hinting at moving in, like asking him if he could manage to pay the bills if she moved in, as she doesn't work and couldn't contribute. This was said out of the blue, they weren't talking about anything like that, and he hasn't said anything to her that could be taken as him wanting her to move in. And then the last thing, talking about suicide. Is this as bad as it looks to me? And what can he do?