whats wrong with me ?

[nottsblonde]

hi , im new on here and was wondering if you guys could give me any advice. im a 25yr old single mum of 6 yrd lad, i split from his dad when i was 3 months pregnant ( my choice ) ive worked really hard going back to college/ uni and work to provide for my son i also worked really hard to purchase my house at age 21. ive been single ever since i was pregnant and cant seem to keep a relationship, ive had a couple of short relationships within this time longest 6 months, shortest 5 wks. i cant figure out what im doing wrong ! the last two has ended with the men not replying to me, completely ignoring me and having no contact at all, ive tried asking what the problem is but still no reply , example i was seeing this guy 5 wks , arranged to meet up after nite out ,( me with my friends him with his ) i spoke to him before went out , would contact later, i then heard nothing form him , until 6pm the following day , i spoke to him he said his phone broke but since then ive heard nothing at all , ive tried to contact him but no answer !!!! i dont understand what went wrong its really doing my head in , if this was the first time it had happened i wouldnt think no more about it , but this is the 4th guy to end it like this !!!! i cant see whats wrong with me
sorry to go on for ages but im struggling to cope, i feel like im going out my mind :(
any comments please

The 'rules' for contact in the early days are, they call you, you return the call, they call, then you call...

you sound a bit desparate, and that is off putting.

if someone doesnt call, its because they dont want to and you need to respect that.

i wouldnt usually, but i think you would benefit from reading 'the rules' book about dating.

Have some confidence and self respect, lovely (project it even if you don't feel it right now).

Call once - the onus is on them to respond either by answering or returning your call. This goes for the situations you describe but also throughout all relationships - particularly in the early days.

Don't chase! Your intention might be to make clear you are available to them but the effect might be one of neediness, which is likely to scare some people off.

Take it slowly. Don't let things get to the point where a man's rejection causes you heartache before you've even had a proper chance to get to know them - why let someone relatively new to your life have that kind of power over you?

You sound like you have done well as a young, single mum and it seems as though you have strived for the best for you and your child.

You have many responsibilities and one of the most important is to yourself - protect yourself emotionally. Take a step back from the dating scene until you are feeling stronger.