If you have split from your DH how did you break the news to friends and acquaintances?

[fridayschild]

DH and I are about to separate. We have told the DCs and our family and close friends.

But is there a good way to tell people you have kind of lost touch with, or who haven't been bored by listening to updates on the slow end of a marriage over the years?

I'm thinking about sending out change of address notes to people, and wondering about putting something on that. It seems a bit impersonal somehow.

Any tips welcome!

I have the same issue, it's been over a year and news is slowly filtering out but there are some people who we rarely saw and so still don't know. I think you lose momentum after you've told the first few people, you stop wanting to go over it again and again.

I think change of address notes are probably a good way to do it. There really isn't an easy or "right" way imo. I remember not wanting to put it in Xmas cards so I avoided sending them to a few people. This year, it's less raw so wouldn't bother me as much.

Going through the same here. I've found the first week very stressful and awkward. Its filtering out now and the jungle drums are doing a good job, its old news already to some!! I thought about contacting older friends on FB!! exDH wanted to put a joint statement on our status updates!!! I find neighbours/the butcher/the lady at the shop hard people to tell so ive lost momentum myself as its no one elses business. Good luck, its a strange time

Spoke to my mum / dad / sister on the phone.

e-mailed some of my friends.

XP did the rest as the twit plastered it all over FB.

Although I didn't have to move house, I think that would have been tickier.

For people I wasn't in regular contact with I put a letter in with the Christmas cards and posted them early. What I didn't expect was all the telephone calls from people either to sympathise or to get the gossip.

Thanks - not on FB -I think I will just try to do the Christmas cards early then, and think about a tactful note.

The most alarming aspect for me is the number of people I tell who react by confessing they are thinking about/wish they were brave enough to do the same. Obviously a lot of unhappy people out there....