Can you be just friends with a man?

[badgirl]

Just thought I would ask this.....tbh I don't think its possible, not if you are attracted to them.

Nightynight, i really have to disagree. My male friends are all married as am i but they are my best mates. I can tell them anything and will go out with them. on occassion hubby comes along too, But not often.

In my experience, if they are single and don't have kids you drift apart as your lives change. If they are married/in a relationship and have kids your two families may become friendly, depending on how you get on with his wife/partner!

I have had four male friends who I have been friends with for over 20 years. The two who are still single I don't see much of any more since I had kids, mainly because they still have a social life and we don't! One of the others is married with kids and living in a different country now. We call to see him and his family a couple of times a year and occasionally phone or e-mail in between. The fourth is also married with kids and we used to see a fair bit of them until a few years ago but I always felt his wife was jealous of our friendship. I didn't really think she and I had a lot in common and would not have become friends if it wan't for him, but I really made an effort to be friendly to her. Then either I did something to upset her without realising it or she must have felt she didn't want the friendship between her husband and me to continue and we haven't see them for several years. I bumbed into him about three years ago and I got a strong hint he wasn't planning to stay in touch

Vaunda, you know your own life best, and I am not going to pass judgement on it. We obviously have very a different outlook on life.
I posted in answer to the question, so I wasn't aiming my opinion at you in particular.

Am interested to know if there's any update on this ?

If he's gay, yeah.

Of course. I have about 5 good male friends. Obviously if one of you fancies the other (and I think one of my friends quite likes me) then it will become more difficult. But in my experience friends are not constantly lusting after each other just because they are of the opposite sex.