Going to be apart from DH for 4 days. Do you spend days away from your dp/dh

[breeze]

On Monday I am going away to stay with a very good friend for 4 days. Decided to go as with the summer holidays here DS is a little restless and would love a break, and also DH has the following 2 weeks off and will do long hours so he can come away for his holiday knowing he has not left a back-log. We have been married 4 years and since we moved in together we have seen each other every day, we have spent only 4 nights apart, and that was down the hospital stays for various reasons.

I know a lot of people will say, wish it was me etc etc, but I know I am really going to miss him, as we do have a lot of fun when we are together.

I just wanted to know really how many of you spend time away from your partners and how you cope.

TIA

Breeze - do you mean purely by choice (not enough ) or due to work?

My DH has to travel for work a lot and in our early married days (we've been married 15 years now) he was often away for 2-3 weeks, now its usually 1-2 nights a week and the odd week away although he's got a 3 week trip lined up in November.

I also travelled for business reasons before I left work (now a SAHM). I have been away a couple of times on my own since we had DS and would do more often if logistics were easier - ie; due to DH's work I'd still need a babysitter; but I've got a w/e planned in London in October.

I am so used to spending time on my own that I find it hard if DH is around too much!! (Like on holiday - difficult!); he was home for the last 3 weeks and I found it really odd.

My aunt recently told me that she and her DH had NEVER spent a night apart in 40 years of marriage! I find that amazing - really lovely but a bit scary, I also wonder how she will cope when she is on her own (uncle now terminally ill, sadly).

hi breeze,i know how you feel,the first time i went home without dh i felt really awful and guilty,the time will go quick and your dh will be busy at work and probably have early nights so before he knows youll be back,have fun with your friend and think of the welcome youll get from dh
you know what i mean

partly the reason I am going away, still not allowed to (you know) due to my op's.

I feel pleased - i always found Paul Mc cartney's " weve never spent a night apart" rather nauseating.

You are still an individual. I eat ridiculous food and cut my toe nails in the living room

oooooooooh,well never mind you can do other things when you get back

Like moan about the state of the house, oh no I wont, he is the tidy one and I won't be there to mess it up.

The way I feel at the moment 4 MONTHS wouldn't be a long enough break from him.

It's a long story which is scattered amongst several recent threads so I won't bore you with it all again here.

I know I am still an individual, I just love spending time with my Dh and although we have our moments, he is a wonderful man, he is kind, caring, romantic and very considerate, he makes me laugh and the best of all he has not complained once about doing housework and other stuff while I was re-covering from my op, and even did more than he fair share beforehand.

It might sound pathetic to some people, but I really love and in love with my dh and I am going to miss him lots.

Different strokes and all that.

EmmaTMG Sorry that you are having a rough time, I am about to go and locate and find out why, anyway I hope it works out for you.

good for you breeze and no wonder you`ll miss him like mad he sounds great

hi try not to get too upset about spending time apart.being apart can be a good thing because you cant wait to get back to them, its like seeing them for the first time again, IYKWIM. you get butterflies because you have missed them and are going to see them again. Be strong girl. lv x

Thanks soppysocks (great name btw).

I am looking forward to seeing my friend as well, and I bet it does go quick.

good it will b nice for you to do girly things with your friend. how long have you not seen her for? my ex worked all over the country. and i missed him heaps but it was so nice to know that on the day he was coming here i would be holding him in my arms, instead of a pillow!! but i wont bore you with my probs, you can read them tho in the archive- desperatley seeking help!! yes thats me.
keep your chin up.

Hello, Soppysocks. Know what you mean. I'd love to be able to miss h again.

hey sykes was chating to you on my tread!!! yeah bet you would love to. why did you split up? was it him? are any children involved?