Hi all
My friend split up with her DH about 5 months ago - he has moved out of the marital home. They split up because he lied to her about some money and it was the final straw after years of unreasonable behaviour (on and off).
Anyway, it was her call to end it, but ever since she has been (understandably) very upset. She calls me almost every day and goes on about what a terrible situation she is in, and how she wishes her ex-dh hadn't done what he'd done, how she is at breaking point (she confessed to me that she has considered suicide, and also killing the ex!). I'm not sure if this is true or if it is her being dramatic, but I have made sure she has been to the doctors, though she doesn't want anti-depressants.
She appears to be going round and round in circles over the same old ground and not moving forward - they are supposed to be selling the house as they need to pay off huge debts but she is reluctant to as she doesn't want to move out of her house. She is also fearing that she will be left with nothing once the debts have been paid off.
She now seems to be faltering towards asking him back, as he has given her an ultimatum in that if he doesn't move back in then he will be actively looking for someone else as he doesn't like living on his own 
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I'm not sure if I have done the right thing, but recently I've tried to give her a bit of a kick up the behind, by telling her that no man worth anything would be saying things like this, especially as they have been together for over 20 years!
She is in a right old state and I am finding it increasingly difficult to know what to say to her.
Apologies as I know I will have missed bits from the OP but I am in a bit of a hurry!
Has anyone got any words of advice that I can give to her?