Nervous about an email I just sent my husband

[YunoYurbubson]

We do talk, but sometimes writing it all down is a helpful way to say what you feel without getting cross or upset.

We are having problems and I don't know if our marriage will survive.

Last week he sent me a long email saying that he realises we have problems but that he truly loves me and will do what it takes to make us work again.

I have just emailed him saying how hurt, angry and sad I feel. It will be really hard for him to read. I feel bad to have sent it after (he thinks) we just spent a lovely couple of days together. But everything I said is true.

He is away for a week now.

Oh this isn't easy.

Are you the famous internet warrior I have heard about?

Nice to meet you.

I wish I could say likewise, but after the things you said about me before we have even crossed paths. I dont think much of you, and it is not nice to meet you.

Well, I'm sure I'll live.

The few posts I've seen of yours, have been mostly of an antagonistic nature. Naturally I wondered why you'd join a, mostly, mums website if you only wanted to cause offence. Or is that the reason you joined?

Surely you have better things to do with your time?

And why choose a name that is so obviously dodgy sounding?

I dont have to explain why I post on any website to you.

And I have explained my username before and to MN.... once again I dont have to answer to you.

And I dont care about what you think of my posts, as I dont think much of yours. Unlike you however I didnt join in with a purile thread purely desgined to have a go at another poster (and even named as such). That thread was removed from MN, and I am pleased about that.

And you managed to have a go at me before we had ever even posted in the same thread.. and you accuse me of being antagonistic? Get a reality check.

I took that thread as an opportunity to ask a couple of questions, but obviously can't ask you directly without communicationg outside of MN.

Why did you have to explain your username to MN? Isn't it easier to choose a less contentious name?

I have simply been curious, having read some of your posts. I'm sure you enjoy MN, as I do.

I know you don't have to explain anything to me, I am nothing to you.

I found some of the posts you'd written very insensitive. I've also commented on others I've felt similarly about. I'm not accusing you of writing antagonistic posts, they are antagonistic as the responses you get show.

I'm sure plenty have commented on my posts.

Perhaps I should have asked my questions to you directly, but I'm not into messaging people out of the blue outside of forums. Apologies for any offence caused.

You are right, you are nothing to me. Lets leave it like that. I look forward to you not repeating your actions of yesterday.

Oooh, that sounds like you are looking over your glasses at me. I feel suitably chastised.

Sorry, dad.

Good luck OP, I hope you and DH work things out.

Wow, some hijack there dudes.

Footlong - it's puerile, not purile. I didn't read this offensive thread you speak of and not seen many of your other posts, but I do actually think you've got a point on here re OP seeing it as their problem, not his. In general it's unhelpful and slightly ridiculous when posters demonise the husband from the word go without at least encouraging the OP to see there is another viewpoint.

Hey Yuno - how are you doing? Have you had any further development on the situation? Thinking of you..