Am I being unreasonable? Another thread.....

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DH has been away on business since Sunday and is back tonight. I'm at home looking after ds1 (3.9) and ds2 (22 months). Both have been ill with high temperatures this week and last night I started feeling lousy too, aching limbs, headache etc etc. Consequently no sleep last night and lots of adminstering drinks and calpol to the boys.

Today dh told me that there is dinner tomorrow night for his group, director and other halves. I've already said no as I'm totally exhausted, feeling flu'y and we don't have a regular babysitter to call on (too hard). I think dh will still go (altho I'd rather he didn't).

Feel guilty but frustratated as he's already been away all week and I want him back.......I need a break!

Vent over......

Why can't these men just say "no sorry I've been away all week and DW has been dealing with sick kids and is now sick herself - it wouldn't be fair - I'll come next time"????????????????

Mine is exactly the same!

After all most directos/colleagues etc etc have families too!!

Although have to admit my DH did come up trumps when I fell earlier in the year and couldn't take DS to school for about 10 days - he even cancelled a course he had to go on - he did the school run which meant going in late and coming home early. I think he even enjoyed that time with DS.

Understand how you feel though. Reckon mine only did that 'cos he knew my wrath is much worse than anything in the office!

I think if he didn't feel obliged to attend, he'd say no. It's one of those "really ought to be there" type events and if I was on top form I'd have no issue with him going. Also everyone else on the invite list has kid much older (or no kids at all), so that's another issue.

Still, me and the boys are having a very lazy day - i'm wrapped up in a blanket feeling lousy and the boys are vegging out on the sofa.

Ok, grrrrrrr......having made it home at 11.30pm last night (delayed flight etc etc) and at work by 8.45am, dh is out to dinner tonight for a works do .

What makes me is that other people have pulled out with family related stuff so he now feels that he really should go even tho' there are very few still going. At least I'm feeling better than I did yesterday and the kids have had an exciting afternoon at Legoland!

Vent over.

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Grrrrr....it gets worse. dh late in last night, now spent all day sorting out a hobby whilst I look after the boys. That's after I've been up since 4am with ds2. Oh yeah, and I've been to Tesco with ds2 and done shedloads of washing. Trying to get ds1's stuff ready for a new nursery school on Monday am too which meanslabels, finding everything. Got to do it today 'cos we're out all day tomorrow.

I'm getting sooooo , I'm gonna have to go out. Either that or say something I'm gonna later regret.

And its just starting to rain too.......

I think you're going to have to say it whether you regret it or not. I thik you're being a star about this. I'd have lost the plot a couple of days back

you and your family are more important that any job or hobby, i think its hiugh time you had this out with him, perhaps a calm approach is the key though, i think he should have the children and give you a break for the day! after all hes had all week and all day sat to himself, ok most of it was work related but he could have got out of the dinner to be there for you and his sick children, what a selfish bloke - some men dont kno theyre born.....

He's a selfish pig. Has he EVER looked after the children when they are ill? If he's one of those men who only gets involved with the fun bits, on his terms, a short sharp dose of reality might be a very good thing. You have got to have a serious conversation with him about his unacceptable behaviour over the past few days - he seems like a passenger rathr than part of the family. Go out all day next weekend leaving him with the kids. Don't be tempted to phone or return home until you are good and ready. He might find out just how knackering it is normally, let alone when they are ill.

damn right edam!!! please do it, for your sanity and his need for reality!