Received very odd email - what to do?

[AWishAway]

My husband moved out, by mutual agreement, about 6 months ago, on the understanding that this may give us time/space to then get things back on track. I have since found out (from him) that before he moved out, he was in touch with another woman but nothing developed, though he thought it might do. After moving out, he did start seeing someone - he told me, and when he saw how distressed and shocked I was, stopped seeing her and told me he would use the rest of the time apart "for its intended purpose", which was in part for him to address his depression/alcohol issues. More recently he told me he was seeing yet somebody else (after I questioned his whereabouts when hoping he could help me with our children). I have now taken off my wedding ring as I feel I have to draw the line - enough is enough.

A couple of weeks ago I received an email from a stranger saying she may be able to help me. The email adressed me by name, but contained nothing specific that related to me. The sender said she knew what I had been through, thought I'd been treated unfairly, could answer any questions I may have, and was on my side. I assumed it was a hoax/spam email, as it could have related to any situation at all, and ignored it. 2 weeks later it was re-sent, but with my husband's name added to the subject line. I have Googled lines from it to see if it is some sort of hoax that is doing the rounds, but no matches came up.

It is really playing on my mind. I don't know whether to ignore it, reply asking who she is, or ask my husband who she is and see what he says. I could open a can of worms but feel I have nothing to lose now. Could things get any worse?

Just a thought but have you considered it could be from your husband, with the purpose of either fishing for information or just for irritation?

Do you still have a joint bank account / mortgage / any other financial outgoing or asset? If you have, and any further email comes in angling for any personal or financial details I'd be quite sure your husband had something to do with the origin.

My personal suggestion would be to keep both emails - electronic copies, not just printed versions as email headers contain a wealth of information - and do not reply to them or any further messages you receive in a similar vein.

Leave it alone....anyone who won't say what they are wanting to discuss is up to no good. Or after something.

Another vote here for ignore it, but then I can be quite paranoid about the net.

I think I would forward it to DH too as it goes, in case he does recognise the name. As you say, could be a generic spammer, collecting email addresses, in which case don't reply, could be someone real though, seeing as your H's name was in the second one. However, they don't sound the full penny so I wouldn't risk getting involved.

I can't see what you've got to lose by asking them to elaborate.

Is it just a first name? If surname too then google name. Google email address anyway.

My first thoughts were it sounds like a friend/acquaintance of your husband or OW trying to give you a heads up.

It was reasonable to think the first one was spam.

I would ignore both and consider blacklisting sender.

Skidoodly, I often find myself disagreeing with your posts (and though I don't have strong feelings on it, do now), but you played a blinder on Pfft's thread- I really want to commend you on that. Sorry Op, hijack over.

My first thought is that it could be your H playing silly buggers.

Either he wants to know what you know or would use any dialogue you entered into with this woman to paint himself in a sympathetic light. For instance he could (posing as ow) tell you that the relationship never went anywhere because he was only ever in love with you, that he never seemed that keen, etc etc.

Seems a bit far-fetched I know, but maybe no more so than the other possibilities?

Thanks :)

You could search the email
Address on facebook to see if anyone comes up? X

Ignore.
You know he's been seeing other people, you don't really need to know any more details.
Sounds like you are dealing with the whole thing very well yourself and don't need 'answers' from this person.

I think it's from the husband and he thinks he is being clever. Perhaps he wants to convince you, in the guise of the OW, that he wants you back.Or it's a creepy "test".

I would have to answer tbh but that may not be the right thing to do.

Are you on any sites where your email address is accessable?

It sounds more like some chancer who pretends to have 'psychic powers' and will 'help' for a fat fee. I think it may just be coincidence that you got it, as it's actually pretty generic.

I'd ignore it for now - since they have emailed you twice now - they are obv. desp for you to reply.

I'd wait and see - you'll prob get some more if you ignore and maybe a bit more info each time.

But tbh - I'd have to email back eventually - too nosey.

That's a man. A woman would not write like that.

Rubbish!

HOnestly, it's pure coincidence that you have recieved this scam email. The actual content could apply to a lot of people ('I know what you're going through.. you have been unfairly treated') - it's pure Barnumism, or cold-reading. Just bin it.

Having seen the bulk of the text I'd say it looks generic and would ignore it and see if they email again with something more specific pertaining to you.

but Goldbrass, they know her husband`s name!

It's the fact that my husband's name was added in the email subject, on the second sending, that made me more suspicious. I did Google the email address it came from, but nothing came up. The name making up the email address is very common (Smith is the surname, with a fairly common first name too) so I have nothing to give any clue who it could be.

I don't think I'm on any sites where my email address could be accessed; I'm not on Facebook or anything similar. I could ask a friend to look for the email address on there. It is a bit puzzling, if it is OW, that she has my email address, I can't think why she would, unless she has gone through my husband's emails and noted it down... which would make it all a bit creepier.

Given that she (assuming it is from OW) has contacted me in this strange manner, the more I think about it the more I don't want to make any contact with her in return. I think I will show my husband the email next time he comes over though, and then I'll see his reaction. I think it's highly unlikely that he sent it himself, it's really not the kind of thing he would do. And if someone he has been involved with is trying to stir things up then he should be shouldering the burden of it, not me.

Just suddenly realised that my email address is on leaflets, flyers and catalogues that I use, as I sell children's books from home... so someone could have got their hands on one of those, or done some digging to get my contact details from that angle. I hope I don't start getting phone calls too as my phone number is also on my publicity materials.

I would let withheld numbers go to voicemail at the moment until things cool down!

Oh come on this is a troll. Women love nothing better than to take nothing at all and bobbledoop it into drivel

AWishAway, your email address is in the public domain; you're getting spam. That's all this is, please don't worry or take it personally.