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Is honesty the best policy with a new man?

6 replies

RitaLynn · 02/10/2010 01:37

I've only been on four dates with a new man, and so far it's gone well, but on the last date we crossed a line and ended up having a good snog, I stayed over but nothing happened, ... but, I don't think I've really resolved things with my XP in that we're still talking more regularly than we should (ok, we have DD to think of), and that I think he would still like to get back together...

So, I think honesty is the best policy, I need to tell this to the new man, but from his point of view, he'll think I was stringing him along. I don't think I can continue with him while my mind isn't clear with my XP.

Is honesty the best policy, rather than rumbling on, and maybe hurting him more?

OP posts:

Mummiehunnie · 02/10/2010 01:45

yes!

Dione · 02/10/2010 01:45

I would be honest. With him and yourself. Give him the truth and let him decide and give yourself time to decide what you want to do and where you want to go.

Do you want to stay with your new man?
Do you want to get back with your ex?
Do you want some headspace?

Gay40 · 02/10/2010 16:44

Yeah, I think honesty is the best policy in 99% of situations. Because things always come back and bite you on the arse otherwise.

HerBeatitude · 02/10/2010 16:48

"I think he would still like to get back together..."

What do you want?

Do you want to get back together with your XP?

If you don't, then he's irrelevant and there's nothing to tell.

If you do, then you should stop wasting this other one's time.

KerryMumbles · 02/10/2010 16:53

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Antalya1 · 02/10/2010 17:22

You've clearly got some thinking to do...and by the sounds of it not quite made up your mind about what you would like, it's not just the new man that you need to have the talk with...but also you need to have that with your XP....time away from them both, to get your head straight...and honesty on all sides..especially the new man...who doesn't deserve to be caught up in this whilst you've still got some thinking to do, at best he'll just muddy the waters..at worst he'll think that you're up for more than you can give ATM.

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