Healing from heartbreak after betrayal

[meemar]

Hi, I recently started a thread in philosophy/religion/spirituality directing anyone who is interested to my blog. It is to hopefully give support and comfort to other women who have been left or cheated on by their partners. It happened to me earlier this year and I am rebuilding my life by finding my own purpose and path in life.

pinksmarties suggested I post here as there are so many women going through the same. It is quite spiritual (hence the original topic choice ) but also, I hope, generally inspiring to all of us to know we can come out the other side stronger.

Hope it's helpful

x

Ahhhh, glad you posted it on here Meemar, credit goes to Patience who linked it to our thread, where your blog has gone down very well. Please come and visit us.....you'd be a VIP . Hope you're ok, it's crap innit, but the laughs help us through it. xxx

Will go and have a look because by the sounds of it it could help me x

pinksmarties

I have started to look at your thread - you women are all so strong and moving forward with such dignity - I am so happy to know how possible it is, because at the beginning you feel so broken that you can't ever contemplate being happy and whole again.

I've put a link on my blog to mumsnet because I think it is such a source of inspiration and support when you don't know where to go, and think you are the only one going through it.

joshuasmummy, - I hope it can help you in some way. Even if only to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's a process that you will grow from and become a stronger person.

sending you love x

bumping for you

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Meemar when Patience posted the link to your blog I bookmarked it and have just been back to a second look.

Your points about how much we can lose the "I" in a marriage resonate with me. My xh wasnt a tyrant but I seemed bit by bit over the years to meld myself into his ways. This was from things like the food we ate , the holidays we took to our social life everything. It has taken me 10 months to now to begin to remember the young woman I was and think about how I really want to live my life.

I agree I would love to think one day I might meet someone (and definitely someone who brings refreshment during Strictly )in the future. For now though I can see I havent really begun to get back to me and I think it will take time to break my lifelong habit of putting up with less than I deserve to be in a relationship.

I dont know how to write on blogs but I will have a go

And yes as Pink says come and post on our thread too

gettingeasier, exactly - mine wasn't a tyrant either. But I realise now that he took me for granted a hell of a lot. His personality was big and he loved to be the centre of attention. I can see now that it stemmed from deep insecurity.

I allowed my 'self' to take a back seat and because his behaviour was generally selfish and critical, rather than abusive, I just put up with it. I thought it was just one of those things.

Being out the other side now, like you, I know I will never settle for less than I really deserve. I am actually really enjoying getting to know me

And I will post on your thread - I'm just lurking at the moment and feeling a bit shy about butting in

much love x

Don't be shy, come on !