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So i'm the liar again!!

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Narketta · 29/09/2010 13:21

Hi all, just need to rant.

I am the oldest of 4 siblings. There's me and my sister who get on very well and are completely loyal to our mum and then there's my brothers who constantly slag mum off for her "faults" and mistakes that she made when we were growing up. Yes she does have faults and yes she made mistakes but none of us are perfect.

Me and my sister were talking at the weekend and I was wound up because my brother had been on the phone to me the previous day calling mum again, so my sister asked me what was up and I spilled the beans. Its not the first time we've spoken about this and everything I told her she has already heard from both of my brothers one of which I don't speak to already because of the name calling and lies.

My sister was livid and ready to phone my brother and have it out with him, I asked her not to because mum would be heart broken as my brothers have very little to do with her already and this could possibly break all contact.

Anyway fast forward to this morning and I get a call from mum and she asked me what had been said by my brother as my sister had called her in tears last night and had told mum everything but she wanted to hear it all from me. I have told her everything and she wasn't shocked by any of it she knows that they talk about her. Mum has called my brother and he has said that everything that I have said is a lie and that i'm trying to cause trouble in the same way that I apparently did with my other brother.

I am not a liar I just don't think its right that my brothers will phone my mum for money when they don't have any, Let my mum and step dad decorate for them and have free use of a holiday home whenever they want it and then call her all the names under the sun the next.

Sorry ro ramble just really neede to vent somewhere. There's so much more to this but its hard to know where to start.

I'm just so Angry that everythings been turned on to me again.

OP posts:
Champersonice · 29/09/2010 13:45

You shouldn't have said a word to your mum. As long as you have a good relationship with her and can be there for her if she gets hurt by other family members, that is all that matters. Of course your bro is going to lie and you didn't have to tell the truth. You could have said you didn't know, or that she should really speak to your bro so that nothing could get misunderstood...horses mouth and all that!

Not surprised it's all backfired on you. Try to stay out of it next time.

Don't mistake my tone - I am being realistic and giving advice, not having a go. Thanks.

Narketta · 29/09/2010 13:48

It was my sister that told my mum!

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Champersonice · 29/09/2010 13:53

Ah yes, I have re-read. OK, but you didn't need to go over it with a fine toothcomb and I think that it can quite quickly become 'Chinese whispers'. And your mum might have acted like she is ok, but it could have broken her heart deep down. Why don't you and your siblings get together and have a heart to heart? Perhaps there are deeper issues going on here. I hope you can resolve any problems.

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