Is this weird? In laws

[emalushka]

Just need to get this off my chest!!

My daughter (3) is staying at her granny's next week. Her aunty (29, single with no children) has taken the night off work specially so that she can see her. My daughter doesn't see this side of the family very often (partly because they live a long way away, but also because I can't stand them!)

Is it a bit weird that the aunty insists on sleeping in the same room as my daughter when she stays over?! I think it's very weird - but don't know if I'm right... She says it's just in case she wakes in the night and is scared... but she never does wake in the night. This is just the 3rd time she has stayed over, but each time, the aunty sleeps in a matress next to her. Tell me what you think.

Don't think it is weird at all. Your sister maybe remembers being scared in the night as a child and wants to give your DD some support.

Sounds sweet

I used to share a room with my nephew if he slept over

dont think its weird, if your daughter has only stayed at this house 3 times ever ar three year old there is a very good chance she may wake.

Think the aunty is being helpful tbh

I think she is just excited about her niece staying over

Thank you. Needed some reassurance. Not weird then. I hate it when she stays at her granny's.

i think its more to do with your ishoo's she will be fine i bet

If you hate her staying there, why does she?

Not necessarily weird, although a little odd if your DD doesn't really know her aunt that well - but it's probably done with good intentions. So long as your DD doesn't mind/care, I wouldn't worry about it.

She sounds like a doting aunty to me...she knows your DD does not stay there often and maybe just wants her to see a friendly face in case she does wake in the night..why do you think its very weird?...it can be seen as ott I suppose, but is there anything else you are worried about?

do you have any concerns about her?

Is she your sister or your husband's sister?

Maybe she just really loves her neice.

Finish this sentence

"I am uncomfortable with her sleeping in the same room as my daughter because I fear she will..."

What are you worried about here? Take your "it feels weird" feeling (which says nothing at all!) and analyse it. Break it down. Explain it.

Sounds nice to me. And, believe me, I really don't get on with my inlaws.

If sil is taking time out for your dd, I'd take in good spirit.

My inls live abroad - are demanding and adore ds yet very neglectful - we arrange very expensive trips around sil (who's a completely depedent little prat) and when we are there she gets her boyfriend to pay for any presents (very unsuitable ones) and cannot be left alone wth ds for 2 seconds as she spends the entire time on her phone or text. Any injury ds has had has been down to her. Very odd for a 38 year old who works for a LA funded home for kids.

So as 'orrible' as you think your ils are - I'd be happy with your sil sleeping next to my ds. Your sil has taken night off work - I think that is lovely.

To the average mnetter it doesn't seem weird so you might have to elaborate on your fears here.