Why do people stalk people?

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If someone had no interest in you in real life but appeared to be stalking you what would be the reason?

There could be hundreds of reasons.

Are you okay?

No idea but stalking is a VERY serious matter. I would involve the police from a very early stage.

What do you mean 'in real life'?

I would suspect most stalkers have a tenuous relationship with reality and think that there is a real connection between them and the stalkee

Be thankful that are not stalking you in RL.
Anything on the PC can be turned off or name changed.
But RL stalkers are dangerous

I'm fine, just wondering what is going on if anything?

It could just be a wind up??

What, someone stalking you on here?

do you mean internet stalking by someone you know in rl who doesn't seem to care much when you are face to face but keeps themselves well aware of everything you put on line and makes comments about it?

Mainly because they are mental obssesives..

Oh and sad bastards...

Thanks it's probably nothing I'll go scratch my head and wonder what i've done lol

No idea and I very much hope you are not a victim of this.

Because they are socially inadequate and do not understand boundaries or the norms of human interactions, all you need to do is be pleasant and they must be so mentally confused this is enough to turn you into an obsession. It is not (probably) anything you have said or done, because they are warped and make their own realities.

It depends on a variety of things. Some people stalk their XPs because they are either nasty little control freaks who hate to be disobeyed or desperate dumbfucks who have seen enough crap films to believe that stalking is actually 'romantic' behaviour which will make the other person realise that you really are The One. Some stalkers have MH issues and believe that the person they stalk is communicating with them through radio waves or coded messages, or really does love them but is being prevented from saying so by other Forces Of Evil.
SOme (like my occasional stalker) are four-square knobboids who have fried their brains with alcohol and drugs and therefore feel entitled to plague the crap out of people in revenge for some imagined insult about ten years ago.
Depending on what your stalker is doing - for one thing, whether it's declarations of romantic intent which are unwelcome, or whether it's abuse and threats - it might be worth reporting to the police. Though if it's someone who is stalking you with what appear to be romantic intentions, the first thing to do is tell the person firmly to stop.

I did have a stalker once when I was younger, and if the same thing happened now I would know to be more worried. I was working in a bar during uni holidays where I met this guy. He asked me out and I went out with him once but it was clear to me it wasn't going to work. He wouldn't leave me alone and kept coming to my work and staying til close. I always managed to stay until he left first. My boss got quite worried and she would check that his car had left the car park before she let me go, but I thought she was overreacting . In the end I stopped working there and went back to uni, and it was OK.

'Enduring Love' by Ian McEwan is v good, and about stalking. He mentions De Clerambault's Syndrome