Anyone else staying for the kids?

[ASecretLemonadeDrinker]

Just wondered how many do... how you deal with it.

I do think sex and affection are two different things and speaking for myself here I don't equate sex with love (although I think sometimes DH does).

Actually I think what you are saying candyfluff is a case in point - it's hard to be affectionate with someone you don't feel you love. But sometimes, making yourself be affectionate will help you remember that actually you do love them!

It doesn't sound like you're entirely ready to forgive your dh for whatever he's put you through maybe?

i never will to be honest

I understand what you mean Whoamireally, and I think same- your actions show your love.

I have done everything I can to make him happy and show him I love him for years. I get nothing back- no respect, no affection. The only physically contact he wants is sex, and because I don't want it (how can I sleep with someone who shows me no respect) then I apparently don't love him.

ASLD, this has been building over years. I think he knows. We barely speak atall now unless it's to do with the boys. We don't even argue anymore.

I think I'm still with Dh because of the DC, it certainly isn't because we're happy together - he is rude, can be quite aggresive, won't spend time with me and we hardly talk - but then sometimes he can be lovely, like he was years ago and for a time I remember why I was with him in the first place.

Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be brave enough to leave, or if leaving is the right decision. So many "ifs"