Am so upset with DH.

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He went this morning to wallpaper ONE wall of his nanas, he left at 8:30am ... I haven't heard from him since.

His nanas is close to our kids schoola nd his mum is there with him, she drives (we don't)

At 3pm I start to worry as he said at 8:30 he would only be a few hours and we didn't sort out who was picking up the kids.

I have SPD and am waiting for crutches BTW!

So DH has his phone, I have no mobile, I don't know his nans number, i don't know his mums number so am clueless how to contact him/

I finally call my mum and ask her to call him.

She does and I hear his phone ringing upstairs!

So he didn't even take that (its a new number so i don't know that either)

So I call him and hes at his nanas, I said 'its 3:15 are you getting the kids?'

he said 'i thought you would'

So he wants me to walk there in the rain with DD when he and his mum are minutes away in a car with 2 carseats in the back?!

And i said 'what would have happened if i didn't call you?? they would have been left at school (i had assumed it would have been logical for him to see its easier by far for him to go'

He says 'i dunno'

I'm upset because he is acting like its my fault when i thought he would have been home by lunch

I suffer from anxiety too so am probably getting a bit OTT but am geuinly upset that he didn't think about me or the kids at all.

SPD? Oh no you poor soul!! I genuinely do feel terrible for you; it is a very unpleasant and debilitating condition.

First things first, please find a way to calm down. Focus on the fact that you phoned him on time and the children are alright.

Secondly, I do not think you are being OTT; I would have reacted the same way (actually, I lie, I would have popped a vein if he tried to place the blame on me or even worse, if the children had not been picked up).

His response ''i thought you would'
and 'I don't know' deserves a swift kick in the nuts. How irresponsible and inconsiderate!!

Thirdly, I hope you will make get his Mum's number as well as his Nan's number as soon as possible.

I really wish I could offer a more meaningful post, but I hope you take some comfort in what others (who have probably experienced something similar) have to say later on.

Huge hug from me

SA

Lol, thanks, I am calm now. And your post was lovely! I have to over react on here so I don't do it in real life!

The kids are only 4 and 5 and the little one only started a few weeks ago and i don't want him to worry we aren't going to collect him!

I just felt 'stranded' at not being able to contact him and thinking that even if i left my self it takes me 40 minutes so I would have been so so late, I was holding out waiting for him to call.

I should write down the numbers and keep them somewhere,

he has no excuse for not knowing our number though

Bit confused here.

How did you manage to call him if he didn't have his mobile and you didn't know his mum's or Nan's number???

I said that I phoned my mum and asked her to call his mobile and ask him to contact me...

she did, and I heard it ringing upstairs, he had left it at home in the bed, so i had no idea it was there.

So then i had his mobile with his mum and nans number in it. so i called his nans house.

I think this is something my dh would have done.

not because he doesnt care just because he forgets that i am not superwomen and likes to presume that i will just automaticaly do it.

did he get the dc,s for you in the end?