What would you do in this awful family Jerry Springer style situation. I wish I was making this up. We are sick of sleepless nights.
My MIL has had a lodger for fifteen years who has been part of the family. He calls himself 'Uncle P'. My MIL had an affair with him for years and has put him before her own children. My DH has been sexually abused by him on one occasion. We don't know if he has abused my BIL. He has been inappropriate with another child family member but no abuse took place.
He is a simple eccentric character who has lots of issues. My husband has come to turns with the abuse that took place. There was also violent behaviour. He is scared to go the police. He works lots of hours. We now have a new baby and don't want 'Uncle P' to be part of her life.
He still lives with my MIL and FIL. Obviously we don't want him having anything to do with our daughter. We believe that the affair between him and MIL has ended and that she is too scared to throw him out in case my FIL finds out. 'Uncle P's' general behaviour is erratic and he has a drinking problem. We have found out also recently that he had a one night stand with a man who robbed my MIL.
My MIL has lots of health problems and is getting old. She hasn't had the best start in life and has special needs which is why my husband cannot tell her about the abuse.
We want this 'Uncle P' out of our lives. My husband is scared to confront him as he wants to kill him. Does anyone have any advice or experience to help us. I will add that my DD will never be left in the care of DH's family. How can this end without my DH, BIL or FIL ending up in prison. This is the last resort.