How can we spice up our sex life?

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Hi, got 3 DC (5, 3 and 3 months). And our sex life is so boring, in fact I feel like it's on my list of things to do; washing, feed children, shag DH, etc. It's always last thing at night, in bed. I'm not super confident either as given birth not long ago and feel wobbly all over.

Anyone got any suggestions about spicing things up? We bought a cock ring a few years ago, that was a good laugh.

I thought about sending naughty texts but I'm rubbish at dirty talk. The most I could come up with was 'privates on privates'...

Anyone got any good ideas or good 'one liners' I could text him to keep him going....?

hi , i gave birth to my first ds two and a half months ago , i know how you feel everything seems to wobble now and i dont feel as sexy as i used to but ds still thinks i look fab! the thing that worked for me was to have the little one babysat for the evening i spoiled myself rotten done the whole nice outfit hair makeup etc (even got a little sleep!) point is though i felt sexy and relaxed and told the ds to be gentle and had a great time!
in my experiance of dirty talk i start off with im dying to see you, have been thinking about you all day , when he gets home the i have to have you now line works a treat,compliments work every time
my friend swears by durex o gel says its the best thing since the rabbit , doing it somewhere unusual works too ;)

I think a big part of the problem is doing it in bed, last thing at night. When you've been looking after kids all day you just feel like going to sleep when your head touches the pillow (if you're female that is..).

So my biggest tip would be to find a way of having a go during the day - either first thing in the morning before the children wake up, or during the day when they're napping/at school, whatever. Or ask your mum or whoever to have the kids for a couple of hours at the weekend so you can both 'go shopping' - drop them at hers, then go home for a good bonking session. We do that all the time - tho I hope my mum doesn't know my name on here or she'll never offer to babysit again.

Daytime bonks are always good in my book, whether its a quicky or a session, whereas end of the night 'duty' ones are invariably crap.

Agree. See if you can sneak some in outside the bedroom. Even on the floor by the telly. Bathroom? Over the kitchen table?

I don't feel so confident naked now but have discovered the power of retro undies. You can strut around looking sexy and confident like a 30's Hollywood star. Porn film - there are some made with women in mind rather than blokes. Look at the Ssh! website.

Hi, thanks for the ideas. Definitely think daytime bonks are the way to go. Hate doing it in bed, it's so boring. Older children are both away on afternoons (school/nursery) so I guess we could 'schedule in a shag' while baby is taking his nap...

Just wish we could be more spontaneous.

Looking online at 'O' gel now