advice need am I being unreasonable? Its a bit long sorry

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The father of my 6 year old has just reappeared due to the CSA being involved and threatening him with baliffs. He has started to see my son on a weekly basis but seems to be under the impression we come as a package and you can see the shark fin coming at you as he tries to move in for the kill.He cant see my son on his own as I really dont trust him but Im struggling with the whole arrangement and feel like saying lets the csa sort it out. Please can someone give some advice.

Moving in for the kill as in trying to be with you?

Arrange all visits through a contact centre would be my only advice. Good luck.

Yep he thinks Im fair game as Ive been on my own for a bit. I hadnt thought of the contact centre as a way forward. I dont want to stop him form seeing his son but I personally dont wish to have anything to do with him based on the last visit where he left drugs in my house.

Bloody hell, don't blame you. I'd definitely go for the contact centre then. Just tell him you aren't comfortable being around him, and don't trust him alone with your son, so if he wishes to continue visits, then this is what he has to do.

Thanks very much for your advice and I will give this a go. I also think I need to get back on the dating scene again but due to this man I feel I cant move on!

You're very welcome :) I hope it all goes smoothly for you.

As for the dating scene - go for it. Tell the ex that from now on, the only conversation that will go on between you two will be to do with DS and only when absolutely necessary. You don't want to spend any time with him, and have no intentions of doing so in the future. Hopefully he'll get the message. Don't let him hold you back any longer :)

Having only joined the website yesterday I have to say a big thanks for the advice as its made me feel more positive.