Fed up of dp being so helpful

[hunnibunni]

DP is such a nice guy that he always helps everybody else out to the point where I feel pushed out. Dont get me wrong he loves me and the dc and would do anything for us but I just feel that hes always quick to help everyone else (doing favours, lending money ect) to the point where anything we do together gets rushed or put on hold. One person in particular is his female friend who is a single mum and shes always asking him to help her out e.g drive her places, fix things, borrow money, look after her dd and now im beginning to get fed up with this coz hes constantly on the phone to her or doing favours. I do feel bad coz shes on her own and finding it hard but it seems like the only thing he doesnt do is sleep with her. How can I deal with this?

Have you spoken to him about it?

Tell him it's time to put his own family first, or he'll also be a single parent.

I have spoken to him about it and he says he wont do so much for her anymore but I can always tell when shes on the phone or if hes going to help her which makes it tense between us and almost as if hes just gonna carry on doing it but behind my back.

Tell him you wont put up with it.

Is he doing more than helping her? I know my wife would be suspicious.