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Parents-in-law...

9 replies

PrettyCandles · 05/09/2005 14:58

We just came back from a weekend trip to my PILs. Usually I come back and have a rant on Mumsnet, or just swallow the frustration, but this time - I can't believe it, even dh said that it was a good visit! And instead of MIL dropping hints to dh that maybe we ought not to visit again fro a while (because FIL gets so stressed by our visits) she was encouraging him to bring us all again because it had cheered FIL up so much!

And to my utter astonishment FIL put his arm around me and gave me a kiss when we left. This is the man who, when we part, hasn't even looked at me let alone shaken my hand for nearly 5 years.

I have done my best to be a good daughter-in-law, even though I have lost respect and liking for them, is it paying off at last? Has he finally realised that while I may not be the woman he would have chosen for his son, I am nonetheless not the spawn of the devil?

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handlemecarefully · 05/09/2005 15:33

perhaps he is a slow burner!

pleased for you that it went well

QueenOfQuotes · 05/09/2005 15:34

That's great it went so well

It took my Gran nearly 30yrs to finally 'accept' my dad

shhhh · 05/09/2005 16:07

Glad it went well, BUT me being the synical person I am I would think there was some reason behind his kindness..have you won the lottery & .!!!
Sadly my nan died still not making up with my dad (her son in law), that was nearly 40 years later . Its a shame how families & in laws can be so nasty.
Hope it continues prettycandles.

compo · 05/09/2005 16:18

hopefully he just realised life is just too short to waste it on needless family tension

PrettyCandles · 06/09/2005 15:25

I wish I knew what caused this change. Not that I'm complaining, but it does feel too good to be true!

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QueenOfQuotes · 06/09/2005 15:28

PC - there was nothing that 'caused' my Gran to suddenly accept my dad - she just did it and was happy with him until she died last year

RedZuleika · 06/09/2005 18:40

Sorry to be cynical like shhhh, but I'd wonder what they were up to... It would take sustained niceness to stop my suspicions. But I'm probably nasty and ungenerous and will spend the rest of eternity having demons sticking pointy forks into my sensitive parts.

PrettyCandles · 07/09/2005 13:22

Those are your children, RedZ, and the forks are their elbows as they clamber all over you.

Yes, wait and see what it's like on the next visit. Particularly once they learn that ds is starting a 'religious' activity.

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RedZuleika · 07/09/2005 15:27

PC: a sudden chilling view of my future...

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