This guy has problems

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I was seeing him briefly for about 6 weeks before i realised he was basically really odd and dumped him.

He was always saying he was no good at things, or would fail, or wouldnt try in case he failed, blah blah blah.

So i dumped him and told him he needed more confidence in himself.

He stuck up a rather pathetic facebook status claiming he needed more confidence and all his girl friends ( of whom he has manny many more than women) lept to his defence and promised him chocolates and wine. I emailed him and said i thought it was pathetic to be having a pop at me via facebook but he said he was sorry, but it was totally unlrelated. ( not likely, he posted it within an hour of me dumping him)

He then sees this girl for 3 dates. She dumps him. He then posts on his facebook page that he had had a wonderful night with ( insert girls name) and then again, all his friends who were girls were sayiing ' oh, is it that page 3 girl'
how bloody pathetic.
He then texts me to tell me he has been in tears and sometihng he thought was going to be really good didnt work out and how his friends have taken him chocolates to cheer him up.

And im just thinking - poor girl who dumped him, and secondly, how really bloody pathetic.

or am ijust being mean.

No, he sounds like an emotional black hole. Not to mention very greedy, with all those chocolates ... You're well rid!

whats with the confectionery lol!

he sounds very dull and self absorbed. BUT i do think you should delete him on FB and not have a pop at him anymore if you dislike him so much.

i thought it just seemed very passive agressive actually.

Like he hides behind this ' im no good, please help me shit' then when something happens he doesnt like, rather than deal with it, he gets his gaggle of girl friends round and post digs on his face book wall for the poor girl who dumped him to see.

hes never actually had a girlfriend, he told me he dates a girl for a few weeks and then she dumps him and he cant understand why.

To start with i fell for it, and though, ' hey, whats wrong with him, seems fine to me'

then i realised he was really odd, with little social skills and very very selfish, and totally unable to relate to people.

so i dumped him. After a bit of begging on his part i said we could still talk, so hes sill on my facebook. And ive witnessed this stupid thing.

I just fdont get it, hes mid 30's and a man. it just seems like teenage girl behaviour.

well i guess he has problems then, maybe undiscovered behavioural ones?

I think he surrounds himself with these girls to boost himself. I wouldn't waste time on it.

God, I thought he was a man I dated very briefly until I saw his age. I agree, he's got serious problems that only a well qualified psychiatrist can sort out. Run!

Pathetic loser - you're well rid. Tell him you'd send him a yorkie bar but it's not for 'girls' .

Belle I thought he was someone I dated too! There must be a lot of them about. The one I was thinking of would be about 36 by now, I am sure he has actually had a girlfriend once though.

OP de-facebook this loon he is an emotional drain.

I've used my experience as a basis for a book so some good did come out of it. It's about an imp who can't get any friends!

Delete him and leave him to it.
He sounds like he has issues!

yeah - i need to. He still has my number and has text me already today as well. I am not impressed.

He was always going on about how women are two faced and you can never work out what they are thinking and how they are difficult. Or a different species.
Twas one of the many reasons i dumped him, probably why he got dumped by this other girl and probably why he always gets dumped.

But playing the pathetic, needy card is so low i think.

not only is he odd, but broadcasting emotional stuff for attention is just plain odd frankly.

I wonder why you are still giving him so much of your time....

Does this sound famliar? Nice guys

that seems about right.

anyfucker. im not. But hes ever so whiney and i feel bad being so blunt with him.

Anyway, he was drunk last night and i got a stream of ever increading rude texts basically begging me for sex.

then more today.

Though he was ever so nice and did not sleep with this girl he saw for a few dates, he seems to think pestering me with porono text messages is going to work???!?!?!? apparently he didnt sleep with her as she wanted to take it slow and according to him im not like that and it wouild be sad for him to go back to wanking.
and yes. that was really was what he said.

I declined. then declined some more, adn then firmly declined.

all the while being made to feel guilty as it would cheer him up.

he is now deleted off facebook and i just just ignore any thing he texts me.

Sounds like the bloke in Friends who told Monica he hadn't done it in 2 years as a way to get her into bed..

phew, your latest post just confirms to me again you are giving him too much headspace

why do you know so much about his relationship with this other girl...including rather intimate details of his (non) sex life with her ?

why did you accept numerous texts and not just switch off your phone ?

why are you even telling us all this ?

again

Delete him form your life (properly) if you don't want the attention

then again...

any - you dont accept texts. they come to your phone if your phone is off or not. ( beeps with new message as soon as you turn it on)
The texts said all the information. I didnt ask. That and his damn status updates on facebook.

He sounds like someone I had a date with, he's mid thirties and had loads of women on his facebook.

don't read the texts

don't read the FB status

it ain't rocket science

anyway, you are no longer in any contact with him at all now...are you ?

and you are not going to allow him to tell you about his sorry sex life...are you ?

job done

actually, I am being a bit sarky, sorry

you did the right thing to dump him...just do it properly is all I am saying x

AnyFucker, don't be so hard on her... otherwise we won't get the spicy details ;)

phew, I have met a couple of those guys... they all sound like the same person. Sometimes they even come together and call themselves "loveshy", they participate in online discussion boards complaining about how cruel women are, how they always fall for the bad guys instead of the good ones "like themselves" (sigh), and how they will never, ever get a woman because this World is so unfair. They are completely self-centered, they do believe everyone else is doing stuff to spite them, and many times they lash at the girls that dump them. One of the ones I met hacked my hotmail account and started sending porn links to my boss!

Keep well away from this guy, don't encourage him. He could be a stalker. These kind of guys have all sort of low self-esteem and personality issues.

I know aurynne, I have softened