What is it with men?

[hopey]

Some of you may remember my story, my ex-dp left me in March to live with someone else. Have recently found out that he has got engaged, the wedding is apparently going to be soon and they're buying a flat. I'm finding it all quite hard to cope with as we got engaged on Valentines day this year. He's only been with this girl five months. Can a bloke really change his mind about someone so quickly? Can you find true love just like that and settle down so quickly? I was doing really well coping with it all, but recently I've been finding it a struggle. I suppose I still can't quite believe the way he left and that he's found "the one" so quickly and it wasn't me.

Your poor thing! Did he give you any raeson why he wanted to leave you for her? You must be in complete shock. Had you two been together very long befor eyou got engaged?

The whole story is on my thread "My partner has left me". We were together 6 years and have a 21mth old dd. I don't want him back, but can't stand to see him and the girlfriend swanning around while I'm left on my own, although I do have very good mates around. I tell myself they won't last. I just don't understand how his mind works.

hopey
what you hear about him may not be what it seems and what his new partner may percieve about him may be what you thought he was going to be with you and you now know alot more and are alot wiser. men can forget quite easily. women not so. you have to look positively and objectively at your life now and future. miestones in your relationship are hard to forget but try and think of a bad thing everytime a sentiment makes you sad and then get annoyed and ask yourself why am i getting upset and set yourself another goal albit mad but a distraction.

Hopey I am sorry you are feeling so low, I think you do no you are better off without him, I don't think it is true love because if I remember rightly, then he was more than a little concerned when he thought you were seeing someone else.
I still think somehwhere downt he line you will meet someone be happy and he will be on his own.

I am so sorry; I think also that he sounds like one of those people (usually blokes!) who just feel they 'have' to have a woman in their lives - so it's much more 'need' than 'love', and pretty pathetic too IMO.

But I'm so very sorry, again; how horrible for you. The one thing I can say - as someone who's been dumped time and time again - is that things do quite often work out OK. Really. Thinking of you, honey.

hi hopey just view his forthcoming marriage as an itsy bitsy teeny microbleedinscopic weeny of a setback on the road to happiness for you and your dd.
Keep your chin up girl and DONT let him or his new floozy get you down.
I never usually say this but IMO you are well rid.

Thanks all for your encouraging words. am feeling stronger about it all today. I suppose i will have days where it gets me down. I know I'm better off without, I just wish it didn't have to be in my face all the time. I'm sure it won't work out for him in the end and ultimately I will be happy one day.

Hopey - it may work out for him and he may go on to have a wonderful life but the only thing that is for sure is that your life will be more wonderful without him in it than it would ever have been with him in it.

There is someone out there for you - believe me, and one day you will find him and you will look back and think 'what did I ever see in him?'.

I hope you do find happiness and love and learn that life is better alone sometimes than with someone who is not worthy of a wonderful person like you.

Good luck. x

Hopey - it may work out for him and he may go on to have a wonderful life but the only thing that is for sure is that your life will be more wonderful without him in it than it would ever have been with him in it.

There is someone out there for you - believe me, and one day you will find him and you will look back and think 'what did I ever see in him?'.

I hope you do find happiness and love and learn that life is better alone sometimes than with someone who is not worthy of a wonderful person like you.

Good luck. x

Hopey - it may work out for him and he may go on to have a wonderful life but the only thing that is for sure is that your life will be more wonderful without him in it than it would ever have been with him in it.

There is someone out there for you - believe me, and one day you will find him and you will look back and think 'what did I ever see in him?'.

I hope you do find happiness and love and learn that life is better alone sometimes than with someone who is not worthy of a wonderful person like you.

Good luck. x