So here's the thing, I definitely react badly to criticism - I can recognise that and I'm trying really hard to work on it but I can see that it's very annoying for DH. But I also think sometimes he puts me on the defensive in a passive way that's hard to pin down. I feel like I get backed into a corner a lot e.g. he'll make some kind of comment like "do you think we should have arranged x, y, z?" (and when he says 'we' he means me). So I'll respond, "well, I didn't because I thought we'd agreed x, y, z". Then he'll do a kind of verbal pat on the head and say, in quite patronising voice, "It's alright, I'm not attacking you, I'm not criticising you...", which really riles me. I now feel that because we both now I'm bad at accepting criticism I can't disagree with anything without it being a symptom of one specific character flaw of mine.
Thing is I can see both sides of it and I know I'm being a bit unreasonable in fact I'm willing to accept that it's mostly my fault. I just don't know what to do to change the pattern. Any suggestions?
I should add that it's possible I'm just a bit depressed, have been there before and I definitely do get too anxious about things but it's so hard to see your own relationship objectively and I don't know whether DH's behaviour is also playing a part.
Have to take the DDs out for a while so won't be posting for a couple of hours but would really appreciate any feedback