How to leave husband if scared he might kill daughter?

[MavisG]

Friend told me last night she wants out of her marriage but is terrified her husband, who has no close family or friends, could decide he has nothing left and do this horrifying thing. She says he's never been physically violent but that he just 'turns' and his tempers frighten her. She has family 3 hours' drive away and me around the corner who could help, but what should she do? I think there are expert charities she could turn to for advice, does anyone know which ones, have any experience or advice? We live in London, if that's relevant.

Thanks for your help, I am very worried about her, she is totally stressed.

She needs to ring Women's Aid now. I hope this works out well for her, she needs a safe life for herself and her daughter.

Another one who thinks she should phone WA. This is a very common implied threat. The police are also useful, I know the Met has done a lot of work around domestic abuse recently. I would suggest she speaks to her local domestic abuse worker. Mine out here was fantastic, very 'unpolice' like, they made me feel much safer.

Tell her to ring the police to ask for advice, they don't need to the husband, at least not yet. But they can refer her to DA organisations that can help her with more practical support like access to counseling or a refuge if she decides to leave.

I know WA sometimes get so busy that is impossible to get through, but perhaps a smaller charity may be in a better situation to provide more support.

She cannot just imagine that he might kill the DD, if she has got to this conclusion is because some serious abuse has been going on for some time behind closed doors.
She doesn't have to wear broken bones to be identified as a victim of DA.

they don't need to talk to hte husband..

Good advice above. She needs to get some help soonest.

Thank you. I don't know what she's been going through. I guess it's possible he wouldn't actually do anything so dreadful, but i'm thinking her fears must cone from somewhere, she's not a fanciful person. Last night was a shock to me, but he has had her bank card for a while and is being very controlling with money, which worries me.

0808 2000 247; free, 24/7 - Womens Aid as a matter of urgency

She needs to call WA and also start with little things she can do herself mmediately, like find her important documents and give them to you for safekeeping, then spirit away things that are precious to her (photos etc) If nothing else, this will help her wrap her mind around the thought of leaving.