My birthday is next week and my DH is working that evening (and I'm working during the day). He could book that evening off (or could have; he has to give a couple of weeks' notice). He hasn't mentioned taking the night off and I know he hasn't forgotten about my BD as we've talked about presents. I also doubt that he's planning a surprise as he's just not that type (and he'd have to arrange babysitting which I normally do). I should mention that our relationshp hasn't been strong lately; we argue/bicker quite a lot and he's often either withdrawn or irritated. The thing is that the day after my birthday he's going out with a mate in the evening so we wouldn't be able to celebrate then either (and he will be working the night before my birthday).
Anyway, if (as I suspect) he hasn't booked the night off, would I be unreasonable to be pretty upset with him? Would it be a sign that our relationship is in a bad state? Or am I just being a complete narcissist and making too much fuss about something that's not that important?