Dh just announced he wants out - scared, what now?

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Have been married for 10 years with 2 beautiful dd's (5 and 1). We have had problems but thought things were improving. I had PND after both babies, but with med and counselling felt I had turned a corner.

Tonight, my dh has told me he wants to end our marriage unless he feels 'happier' in it. He feels he is walking on eggshells after my pnd although he appreciates I am better, still is afraid of my past depression behaviour.

I feel like I have been hit by a car. No idea he felt this strongly and so scared. Yet angry that I now feel he has given me a kind of ultimatum and not sure if I can live 'making him happy' until he decides whether he will definitely leave or not.
Please help, any advice?

It's not your job to make him happy as such. We are each responsible for our own happiness. What does he expect to happen to make him feel happier?

He's made an open statement with no guide as to what he is going to do, or what he wants you to do, to make it work. More talking is required.