long distance relationship

[hadtochangethename]

I met someone on holiday this year, they stay over there and Im in U.K.
We have been in touch since but whats your thoughts on long distance relationships?

Can be a very passionate first phase of relationship...long term can be very difficult but not impossible....enjoy

We managed it for just over a year with DW (girlfriend then) in Hong Kong and me in Europe. It was ok, not great, but ok. By then we already had a couple of years under our belts and were fairly committed so we made the effort, but I'm not sure it could have gone on a lot longer. Oddly the worst point in our 25 years together was the six months after I moved to HK when I felt like a bit of a spare part and she felt like I was intruding in the life she made for herself. It all worked out in the end though.

I would say keep going, enjoy it and see where it leads but don't get too excited yet about it being a long term relationship.

(You don't say where "over there" is - if it's France, say, it's going to be a lot easier than if it's Australia.)

Cleggy36- I used to think that you were either Nick Clegg's double or a long legged 36 year old Amazonian wife. Now I know it's not the later ...hope you don't mind me saying this....funny how MN names form an image

Where are they from?

If it's Egypt or similar, FGS, be careful, it's a flaming industry there.

make sure they are not listed here

I had a long distance relaitionship, which later led to 2 ds's and there are a lot of dependant factors on how it will pan out:

-Your commitments in your own countries, i.e children, jobs etc.
-If one of you is willing to make the move at some point to the other's country
-Finances - can you meet up, spend holdays together
-How commited you both are to make it work
-Country that he's from....it does matter, during my time abroad I have seen some not very sincere men.
-How adapatable you both are and how good you are at communication.

Cleggy36- I hope that my post above didn't come across as being mean. Meant to be light hearted. Best wishes

Not mean at all. Maybe I should explore my 36 year old Amazonian side sometime .

What I find weirdest is when you make contact with someone from here (or any other forum) in real life and someone called worldsgreatestlover or something turns out to be a middle aged bloke called Nigel.

Not that being a middle aged bloke called Nigel would necessarily stop you being the world's greatest lover of course.

...errr..speak-up all middle aged Nigel's and defend your prowess ...silence will be taken as an admission of guilt

you know I have never converted a cyber friendship to RL.....I like living in parallel worlds..... although it sounds exciting to meet up with some of your cyber hero.....

...thinking of it there is one MN who I think that I recognise in RL but I haven't tried to confirm...doesn't seem fair to....

A female friend of mine had a boyfriend in Italy for a few years...it was really passionate...she learned Italian within a year...and they had really really intense chemistry when they caught up....then he moved to the UK to work and it lasted another year until he met someone else.

...so enjoy the intensity as much as the uncertainty..its what life is about...wake up in the morning living for the next time you see him/her

Saw this at cinema last night. Deals with the whole issue of long distances relationships. I've never been in one but I enjoyed the film.

Cleggy, am confused, was it 1 year or 25?

LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) are very common nowadays, what with all the travel going on etc.

It is hard to sustain, you both have your own life/culture/country, etc.
Suddenly you are immersed in another's culture.....
And the relationship is basically via phone, mail, - skype, if you're lucky -, visits....

At a certain point, if it is real, one of you has to make a choice to move there, or both move to a different place.

25 years since first date, 1 year on opposite sides of the world (and that was year number 3).

thanks for you rreplies folks, he is in a lesser desirable country on par with egypt.
Had a loock at the lcb site, he aint on there phew!

Will see how things pan out!

just though id add to this thread, were no longer in a 'relationship' but we are still in touch, thanks girlies x x