conundrum to solve

[wheniwishuponastar]

Am stuck what to do about a friend of mine.
She wants to meet up, but its never straight forward.
I worry about her, that she's getting badly in debt and not looking after her health. (She's very touchy about both points.)
She's always very busy (and stressed with too much on) so making arrangements to see her are never easy and she doesn't want to spend any money which again makes it tricky (like not even a cup of tea).
I don't know what to do with her!
She doesn't seem to value meeting up with me as she won't even buy a cup of tea, but will put other things to see other friends on a credit card.
I'm ok not seeing her so often, she's busy, doesn't want to spend money - but she often pesters me to meet up.
I'm not quite sure why. It doesn't make sense to me.
No idea how to handle this.
Any thoughtful ideas please?

So the answer is to ask her round to your place. "Yes, come round for some coffee on Friday" or whatever. It won't cost anything, you won't put yourself out, if she cancels it's no skin off your nose.

She pesters you because she trusts you and doesn't feel she has to buy your friendship.

thanks taghain

its not always good to have her to mine, and she usually wants to come on a day that suits her, not me!