Any Fucker, SGB, by Icelandic

[Icelandic]

What I am going to do is get him to read the thread so if you add anything, it will be read by him. If sloping off to start a thread like this is illegal then sorry. I would like him to read a version of events through the eyes of a third party, not just me who is obviously just attacking his wife. I am going out until lunch. Feel free to write something for him to read. I am going to make him go over his reasoning in the cold light of not having pathetic illogical excuses to hide behind. That is what I am going to do for now. That and not look at babies. I saw 'A Winter's Tale' with him last year and I couldn't stop crying because it resonated so much. To be accused falsely, etc. I hadn't seen it or read it and it caught me in a way a Shakespeare play never has before.

Beyond that I don't know what I am going to do. What about his daughters being taught how to treat a woman, or how to be treated as a woman? Double Grr.

OK, gotcha.

Tell prettybird.

Dear all, this thread is a sneaky underhand way to get something for dp to read on the other thread. I don't actually want dp to know that this one exists. I just want straight talk on the other one so I can show dp that I am not being unreasonable, he is. Thanks all.

Good idea getting him to read other thread, at least in principle.

However, I must warn you, unreasonable people rarely become fully reasonable and lovely when their unreasonableness is pointed out to them. Sometimes, the biggest journey is working out that YOU find them unreasonable, and their behaviour unacceptable, and working out in turn what you are going to do about it. You can't change other people, nor demand that they recognize and repent for their previous behaviour.

Having said that, I hope so much he does read the other thread and feel some remorse/express regret over his thoughtless, selfish and spineless attitude and actions.
You might want to get this one deleted before you show him the other, though. Just a thought.

Good luck, whatever happens :)

cheerfull, I could not agree more, the man is as he is, and icelandic would do more to work on herself and look at herself and why she bothered with a man with that sort of baggage when others would have run a mile, often people hide behind others issues to avoid doing things and then having reason to blame the other, this is ta therapy talk, playing the game now I got you... however it takes a lot of insight to see your own part and faults and it is often easier to focus on another and feel like the victim, when all along the man and his issues were chosen for reasons, maybe op did not want another child and wanted to and wants to blame partner, this is getting a little deep, anyways Icelandic I wish you luck, you are no different to many people walking around in life, don't feel bad, I agree asking this thread to be deleted before you try to change your partner and show him he is all to blame! My comments do not take away from his apauling behavior that many many people would not have hung around to be part of! Maybe you are as angry at yourself as you are at him!

I had already added to your other thread again before I saw this one

Get him to read the whole thread by all means, but don't expect anything to change

He is so entrenched in his "rightness" and what a good man he is, a bunch of middle-aged bitches with their fancy talk ain't gonna make a jot of difference

You are making a mistake trying to make him "understand"

if he was going to "understand", it would have happened by now

You might as well try to make a cat understand why it plays with a mouse without killing it

there is so much you don't know about this man, and you would be very foolish to stick around and try and find out what it is

he has already told you what kind of man he is by his actions...now you have to listen to what he is telling you