Peoples experiences of Match.com

[MakeYerOwnDamnDinner]

Have they been good? Bad? Can you give me any hints about etiquette? Have never been on a dating site before, but my last relationship ended about a year ago and I'm so fed up of sitting around broken hearted and pining. Think it's about time I got myself out and about a bit more. I'm a single mother of three so don't get much chance to meet single people ordinarily. Have just set up a profile on match.com and someone has already freaked me out by telling me that he thinks I was 'made for him'! What say you lot?

on the bright side I met a bf
on the down side he turned out to be very, very dull
a bit of a lottery, really - just like rl dating, only you do get the chance to find out a bit about them before you waste money on a babysitter

My dad went on match.com and got loads of usuitable people, who lived miles and miles away.

He is now on eharmony and has found a few female friends nearby, none that he is having a relationship with as he just wants friendship atm, but so far so good.

Ah congratulations Idrilis - that's lovely. I'm only looking for friendship really, someone to have fun with once a week or so. I'm not looking for a very serious relationship but your story still gives me hope that I'll meet someone lovely to have fun with.

I met my husband on MATCH.

I have a good friend who has met her partner on Match, albeit after several false starts and kissing lots of frogs. Some lasted 1 date, some a few, and 1 a whole year.

I think the trick is to meet people and not prolong the email agonyconnection too long.
Meet a few- it's not about monogamy at the start for either of you.

Just be honest about what you want.

My brother is on match and has got fed up at times as he is contacted by women way outside his profile "requirements", some want to email forever and never meet, and others well, just no chemistry. He has made a couple of women friends, but no one who has stuck around- he was dumped by a woman he really liked. Guess it's just like meeting people any other way except without all the hassle of going to clubs, parties etc etc.

My neighbours met each other on match. She says she met a few people for dates before she met her dh, and you have to be a bit selective, but they seem very happy, now have a 19 month old girl and newborn twin boys!

I met my DP on match after quite a few bizarre and dodgy dates, you definitely need to be selective.

I'm now expecting our first DC and we're getting married next year.

Thanks everyone. Lots of positive stories there. I am already finding out that there is a need to be selective. Is it o.k. to just completely ignore someone if they 'wink' at you or IM you? I have been doing that when the person is obviously not someone I would be attracted to, but is it considered rude? Are you supposed to send a polite message saying that you don't think they're your type or something?

Yeah ignore the ones you don't want to reply to, it's easier.

Yes I'd find it rude. How long does a "Hello, thanks but no thanks" message take to write?

You can even keep a generic on and copy and paste the replies if you like.

Think of it as if you winked at someone then heard feck all back how would you feel? 95% of the people on match.com may be freak-a-saurouses but they're also people too.

I never activated my profile - I mean, haven't paid anything yet. I get loads of 'winks' but can't see who they're from and can't reply!

So I guess people must be used to their winks going astray.

I met my DP in a round about way on Match too.

My friend joined and met a really nice guy, however she had been talking to quite a few men, and my DP asked my friend is she knew anyone single.

I went on Match so we could swap details, use MSN for a while so we could really get to know each other, and 3 1/2yrs later we're still together.

Good luck with meeting someone.

i went on loads of dates on match. Had a great time as i particularly love first dates. Met loads of interesting guys then ended up with a sexbuddy, fell pregnant, had ds and ended up with my first love. Now have another ds..fairytale ending really. never see sexbuddy and father of child. he done a bunk. But would recommend match in a strange way!

Tbh, I am not being big headed, just factual I had to many winks when I used it for me to be arsed to reply, it would have taken forever, I replied to those I was interested in. It worked, I also used no contact to weed out the no hopers, why bother?

I'm with emmyloulou, I'm on Match and have had too many winks to respond to everyone. I ignore those who I'm not interested in and/or who wink at me from abroad. I don't see the point in raising false hope which seems to be what some get if you do respond in some way.

I have on my profile that I won't respond to anyone who contacts me using text speak. The other day I got an email written in text speak . I didn't reply to him either.

I have tried to see if I can look at some other womens profiles, just so that I can see the sorts of things they're putting on them. I'm so new to this and I'm not sure if I'm putting myself across well - only seem to be getting interest from people that I wouldn't be interested in. There doesn't seem to be a way to do that though.