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friendship advice!!

12 replies

falselashes · 06/09/2010 20:08

Howdy!
so the story goes...
I have two friends, sarah and gemma.
sarah i have known for 7 years and gemma for about 3.
i have seen sarah go through some shitty relationships and i have always been there for her offering support and offering to have the kids etc despite having 3 of my own and one on the way!(at the time) and i have known gemma since we met at a babay group with our similar aged little girls.
At one of my childrens birthdays parties i introduced the two of them to each other in the hope they would start a friend ship also!
now in the last 6 months i have left my husband and sarah encouraged me to do this as he was a cheeting lying scumbag. now i am on my own none of them are around for me at all. they dont invite me to anything and when i arrange to meet them they are allway too busy but seem to have time to meet each other and exclude me. sarah has now started totally ignoring me and gemma avoids talking to me if she can help it. i dont know what the fook i have done but i dont know wheter to just think sod it and write them off or to wait till they are ready to be civil again.
also when i last met gemma she let slip about a convo she had had with sarah about lots of personal things in my life including my ex husband giving me and sti etc. is this ok for me to be cross about this or am i being totally stupid and missing the point that this is just what girls do behind their friend backs?? I feel like ive got enough going on in my life (as i also work full time) to be bothered with this crap!!!! any suggestions????
geatly recieved, btw my spelling is awful as im vvv tired!
x

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gingerkirsty · 06/09/2010 20:10

Doesn't sound like they are very good friends to you tbh, I would write them off for now and see if they come back to you at a later date. In the meantime concentrate on relationships with thoughtful, supportive friends instead!

falselashes · 06/09/2010 20:13

great advice, i just wanted to chech i wasnt being unreasonable or that this wasnt just normal girl behaviour as i dont have a huge amount of femail friends that are single or younger than me!

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gingerkirsty · 06/09/2010 20:20

How old are they? Reminds me of school to be honest! Are you older than they are then? Do you have other friends you can 'invest' more in to build those friendships?

reallyimeanreally · 06/09/2010 20:22

You know, I have watched in disbelief so many times when the said 'friend' has strolled onto a thread, but yep, 'Sarah' here Hmm. I'm more than happy to talk about this off board

kimplus4 · 06/09/2010 21:00

Confused!

gingerkirsty · 06/09/2010 21:03

Shock Smile

NotEnoughTime · 06/09/2010 21:21

Good luck-hope you both manage to sort things out.

whatserface · 06/09/2010 22:40

WOW! This is er....... awkward!! Grin

warthog · 06/09/2010 22:45

gahhh

notalone · 06/09/2010 22:47

Oooh - good luck both of you Smile

Katieplus1 · 06/09/2010 22:48

Oh gosh, you poor poor thing- wat awful 'friends'.
It SEEMS your trying so hard and all of a sudden they've completely ditched you :-(
What total bitches.
Of course, this is only one point of view, and could be construed as a little bit one-sided, we dont know who you are, how you are....
But what I would say is concentrate on all those kids you got, rather than chase endless causes on here- that will make you feel better..........

gingerkirsty · 07/09/2010 08:35

Miaow! Ladies, ladies - it might be better to discuss this off board, don't you think?

Or as I suggested at the beginning, you are clearly not really friends with each other and may as well just move on!

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