First of all, no problem of OW or anything like this. But some very difficult years where we managed to the get the worst from each other.
I've had PND and then ADN. I found being a SAHM the most difficult thing in the world (not planned, I was made redundant less than a month before I was due to go back to work after dc2 birth). DH found becoming a dad a real challenge to say the least.
So we ended up in a situation where he was stonewalling me, not talking to me at all. Getting grumpy if things were not going his way. I got very emotional and in some ways 'needdy' (of his attention and his support) which just increased the stonewalling.
Last year, I ended up physically tired and emotionally exhausted. In some ways, I was so low that I had to do something. I took some steps to take care of myself, physically and emotionally and I've become more stable emotionally and much more energetic.
In the mean time, I had been working every other weekends (DH looked after the dcs) for the last 3 years and that finally stopped a few months ago. DH seems to have gone out his habit of not talking to me (My guess is that he was finding looking after them 2 days on his own too much) and is obvioulsy making some efforts to be nice and caring.
The problem is : I can't bring myself to see that as a fantastic progress and a good thing. I've lost the trust that I had in him not to hurt me emotionally (even though I know t wasn't intentional). I care for him but don't feel I love him anymore and I'm not sure I am willing to do the effort necessary to trust him again and find the spark.
Has anybody being in a similar situation and manage to get their relationship on track? If so what did you do?