Just wanting to find out if this is normal.
DH works a punishing shift pattern, a week of lates (3-11pm followed by on-call all night), a week of earlies (6am-3pm, but more frequently till 5pm), and then a week of 'random' shifts depending on cover. He has to work one weekend in three (when he is on-call 24/7 from friday to monday), but one of the long weekends off is after a punishing ten-day stint. He's almost always knackered and frequently ill on his days off.
I'd love him to not work so hard - as would he - but there's no option.
I work a regular 9-5.
Thing is, our sex life is no more frequent than twice a month. It's good when it happens but, by god, I wish it was more frequent.
It's not just the fact that he's away at work when I'm at home, when he is at home he's knackered.
I don't know if I should push him to make more effort or accept this is just a sad side-effect to our lifestyle.
Holidays are usually better, but it takes him a while to regain his energy and we're almost always plagued with the 'come-down' cold he picks up.
Just wondered if I'm suffering alone or other wives out there feel my pain?
Not sure I want a solution, just empathy.